297: Don't Let These Silent Killers Destroy Your Relationship

Love Life with Matthew Hussey

Matthew Hussey

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.8 • 2.9K Ratings

🗓️ 21 May 2025

⏱️ 80 minutes

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Summary

What REALLY kills relationships? We often think it’s huge differences in personality or values that cause break ups, but just as often it’s the small, subtle, repeated behaviours that lead to relationships ending.

From the "Four Horsemen" of relationship conflict to the resentments that go unspoken until it’s too late, Matthew, Stephen and Audrey explore how these silent killers show up—and how to catch and heal them before they do lasting damage.

Topics include

A deep dive into criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling (and how they sabotage love)
Why “repair” matters more than perfection in long-term relationships
The unconscious reasons some people can't say sorry and how to deal with it
How resentment builds when we don’t feel seen, appreciated, or included
The importance of creating a relationship culture where nothing is off-limits to talk about
A listener question about red flags before marriage
The difference between expecting love to be perfect vs. building a love that lasts

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Transcript

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0:00.0	Hello, Audrey.
0:06.4	You can't start that softly.
0:08.3	Why?
0:08.8	Because it's a beginning of a podcast.
0:10.9	You can't start that soft.
0:12.4	What do you mean?
0:12.9	We have to start some, like some ghastly morning radio.
0:17.0	Hello and welcome back to the Love Life podcast.
0:18.8	I'm Stephen Hussie with me, Matthew Hussie.
0:20.7	No. You don't need to start like that. You can't start that soft. You can. Hello and welcome back to the Love Life podcast. I'm Stephen Hussey with me, Matthew Hussey. No, you,
0:21.2	Audrey. You don't need to start like that. You can't start that soft. You can. There's no rules here.
0:28.0	You can start like this. Hello, Stephen. Hello, friends. How's everyone doing? I'm wearing a t-shirt with a
0:33.6	logo on it today. I never wear t-shirts with logos anymore, I realized. One thing I do
0:38.5	know about you, you have never been a logo on the T-guy. You do not like the actual logo on your t-shirt.
0:46.1	You never have. Well, when I was like 14 and DJing, I did wear some Berberie gear. Yeah, but they
0:52.6	don't have the logo on it. I'm talking like Ralph
0:54.5	people are going to people with no context are going to think like people in America are going to
0:58.3	think that meant that it was like money was sloshing around. It was it wasn't it was like.
1:04.7	Yeah, Matt wasn't like the win in Vegas DJing. No, that's just what you that's what you did is you had just something. A lot of
1:13.2	it was just fake, wasn't it? Do you remember that? It was just like, you know, teenagers walking
1:17.7	around with night sort of brand names. Right. And you were DJing at local clubs. I was.
1:24.6	I was. Put in another life. But then, but then I retired the brand names.
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