295 | your happiness is not my responsibility

Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew

Shawn Johnson + Andrew East

Society & Culture

5.0 • 39.9K Ratings

🗓️ 21 January 2026

⏱️ 56 minutes

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Well... This series wasn’t planned. It started with us unpacking three phrases that have hit our marriage the hardest: “It’s not my job to make you happy.” “We don’t need each other.” “I’m going to let you down.” Each episode breaks down one of these conversation starters—and what followed was not easy. There are tears. There are real-time arguments. And there are very honest conversations we almost kept private. This is Part 1 of a three-part series. Parts 2 and 3 are coming over the next two weeks—stay tuned. We’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below. Do you agree? Have you had these conversations in your own relationship? ALSO — we have a BOOK. We’re so excited to finally share The Courage to Commit, releasing June 9, 2026. Pre-orders are available here: https://www.thecouragetocommit.com Love you guys!Shawn & Andrew Caraway ▶Caraway’s cookware set is a favorite for a reason — it can save you up to $190 versus buying the items individually. Plus, if you visit https://www.Carawayhome.com/EASTFAM, you can take an additional 10% off your next purchase. Wildgrain ▶ Right now, Wildgrain is offering our listeners $30 off your first box plus free Croissants for life when you go to https://www.Wildgrain.com/EASTFAM to start your subscription today. Cove ▶ Make protecting your home one of your New Year’s resolutions! Check out Cove at https://www.covesmart.com/eastfam or use code EASTFAM at checkout for up to 70% off your first order. And if you get a survey, be sure to let them know you heard about Cove from this podcast. OLIPOP ▶ Right now, you can actually get a free can of OLIPOP. Just buy any two cans in-store — any flavor, any retailer — and they’ll pay you back for one. Go to https://www.drinkolipop.com/COUPLETHINGS for all the details Follow our podcast Instagram ▶ https://www.instagram.com/shawnandandrewpods/ Follow My Instagram ▶ https://www.instagram.com/ShawnJohnson Follow My Tik Tok ▶ https://www.tiktok.com/@shawnjohnson Shop My LTK Page ▶ https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shawnjohnson Like the Facebook page! ▶ https://www.facebook.com/ShawnJohnson Follow Andrew’s Instagram ▶ https://www.instagram.com/AndrewDEast Andrew’s Tik Tok ▶ https://www.tiktok.com/@andrewdeast?lang=en (00:00) the series we never planned for (01:56) I’m not here to make you happy! (04:09) life updates (reminder, this is a repost episode) (06:10) why we are doing this & how we disagree (14:20) “the point isn’t the “happiness”, it’s about support” (23:23) viewing emotions (andrew's pov) (29:50) being fully known and loved (34:04) do you run away if there is no happiness? (39:45) balancing the variables (44:18) marriage isn’t about your happiness Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	What's up, everybody?
0:01.0	Welcome back to a couple things.
0:02.1	With Sean and Andrew.
0:03.0	We've got a new series for you.
0:04.6	It's one that we did not intend to film, but it kind of fell together.
0:07.6	The way it fell together is Andrew said three different sayings that equally irked Sean, and we thought, wow, maybe we should make this a series.
0:16.8	They are consistent, and they've been with us for 12 years.
0:20.3	And I thought we should talk about them.
0:23.0	I will preface this by saying, you're going to see some tears and some live arguments, but stick with it.
0:29.3	And please, please interact down below and tell us what you think. Maybe not who's right or wrong because we don't need to start more arguments, but where you stand on the argument.
0:40.0	I would like to do this. We're going to do a three-part series. The first of the series is I'm not here to make you happy.
0:46.8	Which, if you guys have been with us for a while, we have already done this episode. This will be a reposting, but trust me, it makes sense for the next two to come.
0:55.2	And that'll be today's episode. Yes. Then the next episode will be, we don't need each other.
1:00.5	Oh boy. And then lastly, it's, I will let you down. Okay. Again, these are all things I've said to
1:05.5	Sean. And these actually are all episodes that I wanted to do because I thought, wow, that's such a
1:10.5	profound concept. And then they didn't hit like I wanted to do because I thought, wow, that's such a profound concept. And then
1:12.6	they didn't hit like I wanted them to. You're going to see me get pissed. And then you're
1:17.6	going to see me get sad. And then you're going to see us kind of debated out. So here's to some
1:23.5	real life combos. You said some cuss words. That got intense there for a second. But I want to do
1:27.8	the three parts and let's do a live stream afterwards so I can get berated by the internet online. Maybe we should do a live with a therapist to actually get a professional's advice. I'm down. Anyway, we're excited to start this series. Again, this was kind of happenstance, but we filmed these back to back we said, wait, these are all kind of similar in how and how equally offended they make Sean. And that's not my intention,
1:48.5	which is what makes it so interesting. So let's dive into episode one of, it's not my job to make
1:54.7	you happy. It's up, everybody. Welcome back to a couple things with Sean and Andrew.
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