Okay, today's episode, you're just getting me because Neil and I tried actually to sit down and report this

episode, but he is still recovering from pneumonia. And for whatever reason, today, his cough has kind of

like kicked back up and he couldn't get through a sentence without coughing.

So it's just me. And we're going to talk about holiday boundaries again. I know that we talked

about this last year, but I've got maybe some new points to bring up and some new things to

discuss. Honestly, I feel like this could be a conversation every year

around the holidays because it's timely. It affects most of us. And, you know, there's always things

that we could use a refresher on. I feel like I could talk about this every year and and remind myself,

like that's the thing about these topics too is when I prepare to do a podcast episode, I remind myself, like that's the thing about these topics too, is when I prepare to do a podcast episode,

I remind myself of things where I'm like, oh yeah, that's right.

That is the principle here.

That is what I need to remember.

So this might be a little more of a mini episode,

but hopefully it's packed with things that are really helpful for you.

So the reason I thought of this too is because I posted a reel the other day where I was

talking about healthy boundaries and some space that you can give yourself if you know

you're going to be around in-laws for an extended period of time.

And it triggered some people.

It triggered some moms, some mother-in-laws, who, you know, felt hurt by the idea of maybe

their daughter-in-law is not wanting to spend the entire holiday season with them or like an

entire week during a holiday or whatever. And so there's a few things that I want to go into with that.

And the number one, the first thing would be, like, are boundaries selfish?

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