#294 Navigating Anxious and Avoidant Attachments with Julie Mennano

Heal Your Heartbreak

Break Up Bestie

Society & Culture, Relationships, Self-improvement, Education

4.8 • 714 Ratings

🗓️ 4 November 2025

⏱️ 46 minutes

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Summary

In today's expert episode, I'm interviewing Julie Mennano, who you might know from her Secure Love podcast or her super insightful Instagram account @thesecurerelationship. Julie is an attachment expert and the author of Secure Love, and in this episode we tackle all things attachment theory—especially how it relates to breakups and healing. We dive deep into the anxious-avoidant dynamic, the misconceptions so many of us have around avoidant partners, and why those relationships aren't necessarily doomed. Julie shares her unique perspective on taking accountability after heartbreak without falling into self-blame, how to build self-trust for future relationships, and explains how negative cycles erode intimacy. We also talk about why labeling attachment styles can be helpful—but sometimes overdone. If you've ever wondered how to make sense of your breakup through the lens of attachment or want to set yourself up for a healthier relationship next time, this episode is a must-listen.

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0:00.0	If you are looking for even more help and guidance on your breakup, I have a few different
0:04.2	options for you to take your healing to the next level. I have four different online courses
0:08.7	depending on what stage of the breakup that you're in from beginning all the way into moving
0:13.5	on after heartbreak, or you can bundle all of my courses together and use the code podcast
0:18.6	to get $25 off my course bundle.
0:21.8	I also have my 30-day no-contact challenge to help hold you accountable in going no
0:26.1	contact with your ex.
0:27.7	And we have our free Facebook group, Healing Hearts Club, where you can connect with other
0:31.4	people going through breakups all over the world.
0:34.2	To learn more about any of these resources, head to the show notes where you can learn more
0:38.2	about my courses, take the quiz to figure out which course is best for you, or join the Facebook
0:43.0	group. And don't forget to use the code podcast to get $25 off my course bundle.
0:53.8	Welcome to the heal your heartbreak podcast with your host, Breakup Bestie,
0:58.8	aka me, Kendra.
1:01.1	Breakups are hard, but you don't have to do it alone.
1:04.4	Each week, I will be taking you through a different topic as it relates to breaking up,
1:09.4	healing from heartbreak, growing in your single life,
1:12.5	dating and getting back into happier and healthier relationships.
1:16.9	The goal of this show is to provide support, hope, tips, and to remind you that above all,
1:24.1	this too shall pass.
1:28.8	Welcome back to another expert episode of the heal your heartbreak podcast.
1:32.4	Today I have Julie Manano on the show and she is the host of the Secure Love podcast.
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