#290 From Self-Sabotage to Self-Regulation: Anna Runkle’s Guide to Relationship Healing

Heal Your Heartbreak

Break Up Bestie

Society & Culture, Relationships, Self-improvement, Education

4.8 • 714 Ratings

🗓️ 7 October 2025

⏱️ 53 minutes

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Summary

In today’s expert episode, I’m interviewing Anna Runkle, better known as the “Crappy Childhood Fairy” on YouTube, whose new book, Connectability, just launched. We talk all about what it really means to be dysregulated, how childhood trauma—not just the “big T” trauma—can play out in our adult relationships, and why so many of us find ourselves self-sabotaging or struggling to connect. Anna dives into why neglect, not being seen or cared for as a child, can have lasting neurological effects, and she shares practical steps to start re-regulating your nervous system and breaking out of old relational patterns. We also dig into why we might be drawn to emotionally unavailable people, the hidden ways we isolate ourselves, and why building multiple kinds of connection—not just romantic—is so important for healing after heartbreak. Anna offers relatable stories, super tangible advice, and hope for anyone navigating relationship wounds or looking to build a more connected, supported life.

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0:00.0	If you are looking for even more help and guidance on your breakup, I have a few different
0:04.2	options for you to take your healing to the next level. I have four different online courses
0:08.7	depending on what stage of the breakup that you're in from beginning all the way into moving
0:13.5	on after heartbreak, or you can bundle all of my courses together and use the code podcast
0:18.6	to get $25 off my course bundle.
0:21.8	I also have my 30-day no-contact challenge to help hold you accountable in going no
0:26.1	contact with your ex.
0:27.7	And we have our free Facebook group, Healing Hearts Club, where you can connect with other
0:31.4	people going through breakups all over the world.
0:34.2	To learn more about any of these resources, head to the show notes where you can learn more
0:38.2	about my courses, take the quiz to figure out which course is best for you, or join the Facebook
0:43.0	group. And don't forget to use the code podcast to get $25 off my course bundle.
0:53.8	Welcome to the heal your heartbreak podcast with your host, Breakup Bestie, aka me, Kendra.
1:01.1	Breakups are hard, but you don't have to do it alone.
1:04.5	Each week, I will be taking you through a different topic as it relates to breaking up, healing from heartbreak, growing in your single life, dating,
1:13.2	and getting back into happier and healthier relationships. The goal of this show is to provide
1:19.0	support, hope, tips, and to remind you that above all, this too shall pass.
1:28.8	Welcome back to another expert episode of the heal your heartbreak podcast.
1:32.5	Today, I am so excited.
1:34.8	This was such a fun interview.
1:36.4	I have Anna Runkle.
1:37.5	She's known as the crappy childhood fairy on YouTube.
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