This is Hello Freedom and I'm your host Terry Cole. For almost two decades I've been a licensed psychotherapist and transformation coach,

and on this show I will bring you simple strategies based on practical psychology, inspiring expert interviews, and my own insights and observations

from my time on the front lines of the fascinating worlds of entertainment, impairment, and

mental health.

Now let's get going with today's episode.

Well, hello and welcome to Hello Freedom.

I'm your host, Harry Cole. I am so happy that you're spending a little bit of time with me today.

I want to talk a little bit about having an expectation hangover. My guest today is a friend of mine who's an author and a really brilliant coach, a friend. She has her own really awesome podcast which we will talk about, but she has this great book out and it's called

expectation hangover and it's all about getting over your past and basically

getting what you want, creating what you want in life. And I recently have had a disappointing experience happen in my life and I was really

like shaken by it. I was surprised at how emotional I was and it was not a personal thing so if it's a personal disappointment I can I can get

with that it's fine if you're emotional it was a business expectation and I'm still sort

of sorting out and hashing out with with myself why this basic partnership

thing didn't work it wasn't a partnership with someone else it was just someone else. It was just it was just it was creating something and the people I was creating it with something happened and I felt blindsided by this experience and I was super disappointed in the outcome of the collaboration basically and it cost me a lot of money and it was just a drag.

And I wonder, I was thinking thinking I'm a psychotherapist

and I've had probably without exaggeration 25 years of therapy with a few years in

between you know break here break here or break there.

So I wonder, what do you do?

I mean, what I did with, I'll tell you what I did with my disappointment.

And then I'm curious, I just want you to think about,

what do you do when you're disappointed.

So I went through the process, the regular process of disappointment, which is,

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