288. The Righting Reflex in Grief

The Widowed Mom Podcast

Krista St-Germain

Mental Health, Grief, Deathofpartner, Education, Widowedmom, Deathofspouse, Widow, Lossoflovedone, Health & Fitness, Husbanddied, Self-improvement, Posttraumaticgrowth, Lifeafterloss, Overcominggrief

4.6 • 649 Ratings

🗓️ 2 December 2024

⏱️ 10 minutes

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Summary

Have you ever shared something difficult about your grief, only to have someone respond with a dismissive comment like, “They're in a better place” or, “At least you had the years you had together?” This instinct to fix or "right" a situation is known as the righting reflex. It’s a common response to seeing someone in pain that’s usually well-intentioned… but it doesn’t feel good.

I explore the concept of the righting reflex, how it shows up in our interactions with others and ourselves, and strategies for responding to it in a way that honors our feelings and needs.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/288

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Widowed Mom podcast, episode 288, the writing Reflex in Grief.
0:10.8	Welcome to the Widowed Mom podcast, the only podcast that offers a proven process to help you work through your grief to grow, evolve, and create a future you can truly look forward to.
0:24.7	Here's your host, Master Certified Life Coach, Grief Expert, Widow, and Mom, Krista St. Germain.
0:33.3	Hey there, welcome to another episode of the podcast.
0:36.6	How you doing?
0:39.9	How you feeling? I know those holidays are coming. If you're here, you've probably already survived Thanksgiving in the U.S.,
0:45.5	but December has just started. So I want to remind you that there are quite a few episodes
0:52.6	of the Widowed Mom podcast that are related to
0:55.8	the holidays. So if you will go to coaching withchrista.com and you will click on the podcast link,
1:01.8	you will see every podcast episode with a search bar. And you can search by holidays or holiday.
1:08.5	And all of those episodes will pop right up, and you can listen to them.
1:12.1	So they are there for you.
1:13.7	I, right now, in a couple of days, am so happy to welcome my daughter home.
1:19.8	She's been in Argentina all semester studying, and I have missed her so much, and I'm ready to
1:25.4	squeeze her and hug her and hear her stories and see all of her
1:29.2	photos and so I'm really, really looking forward to that. I'm also enjoying this little desk
1:35.3	that I have if you're watching on YouTube. You can tell the view is different. I have a standout
1:39.7	desk. My back has been hurting a lot. I've been sitting way too much. So I finally got a stand-up desk.
1:45.7	And man, it's like a whole different office to be standing in, feeling so much more energy,
1:52.0	which is really nice. Anyway, okay, the writing reflex. Let's talk about it. I know you've been on
1:57.3	the receiving end of it. After I describe it to you, you're going to know exactly what I'm talking about. I just didn't know until recently that there was a name for it.
2:05.4	And so when I heard that there was a name for it, I decided, yes, must do a podcast episode on this.
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