Your attachment style is formed early in life and now it affects your adult relationships.

Do you know what attachment styles are and more importantly

do you know what yours is? Welcome back to savvy psychologist. I'm your host

Dr. Jade Wu. Every week I'll help you meet life's

challenges with evidence-based research, a sympathetic ear and zero judgment.

Have you seen the show How I Met Your Mother?

It's about a bunch of flawed but lovable New Yorkers, trying to find or hang on to love

as they go through life's challenges, which range from silly to momentous.

It's a funny, feel good, and sometimes poignant sitcom.

But what I like most about it is that it's a perfect showcase of human attachment styles.

If you don't know what attachment styles are or haven't ever seen the show, don't worry.

Once you hear about the characters and how they personify each attachment

style, you'll be sure to recognize yourself or people you know. But first, what is attachment? Attachment is the bond we form with our first primary caregiver, usually

apparent. It's a universal human phenomenon that starts as early as in the womb, and the way we develop

it eventually affects the way that we find, keep, and end relationships. There are four major attachment styles that people form early in life and generally tend to keep into adulthood.

These styles are one, secure, two, dismissive

avoidant, three, anxious preoccupied, and fearful avoidance, also known as disorganized.

To figure out what style of attachment you tend to have, there are quizzes you can take. They ask you to agree or

disagree with statements like, I easily develop emotional ties to others. If a

partner pushes me to establish a commitment, I freak out inside, or if I'm not in a relationship, I am nobody.

You can see that these items are probing the way we think of others and ourselves in the context of relationships and intimacy.

So what attachment style do you think you have?

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