Hi, I'm Dr. Jen Ridey and you're listening to the Vibrant Happy Women Podcast, episode

number 280. I'm talking today about how to fight fair. Stay tuned. Hi, I'm Jen Ridey and this

podcast is for women who want to feel more vibrant, happy, aligned, and alive. You'll gain the

emotional, physical, and spiritual

tools you need to get your sparkle back and ensure that depression, anxiety, and struggle

don't rule your life. Welcome to the Vibrant Happy Women Podcast.

Hey there, my friends. We're talking about marriage today and how to fight fair. Ooh, this is juicy.

Now, if you're not married, this still applies to you. Maybe you have a partnership or maybe you have a

significant other or you're dating or a boyfriend or a girlfriend. I think you're going to love this

because we're going to learn how to fight fair in a way that

allows all of us involved to feel emotionally safe. You know, relationships used to be about

financial security or safety or whatever 100 years ago, but now they're really about

emotional safety, emotional connection and

fulfillment. And if we don't have that in our relationships, what's the point to some extent?

So by the end of this episode, I hope you'll have some ideas on how you can fight more fairly

to make your disharmony, your moments of conflict a little shorter, a little safer emotionally,

so it's less painful. Now, I know what I'm talking about here. I'm a little bit ashamed to admit,

yes, there's that shame word. I have experienced much shame and much trauma over the course of my marriage.

I would say, hands down, that the most traumatic experience of my life has been my marriage.

That's sad, isn't it? You're like, Jen, what are you doing? Why are you still with him? Why am I still with him? Because

both of us, he and I, my husband Heathcliff and I, have grown so much. And by and large, we really don't

fight that much anymore. And when we do, the fights are short, usually emotionally safe. I don't experience the traumatizing

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