This is Stephen Robbins. Welcome to the Get It Done guys, quick and dirty tips to work less and do more.

Saying no is hard, but no is the flip side of yes, and you need to say yes to what you want in your life,

and that means saying no to what you don't want. It's brutal, but it's necessary. I've noticed that

there are times in my life that I get the maddest and the most frustrated,

and those are when I've said yes to someone when I really meant no.

So the whole time I end up resenting the fact that I said yes in the first place.

I need more no in my life.

But no is hard.

Fortunately, William Urey wrote the book on the topic. The power of a positive

no guides us in saying no so that we can say yes to what matters most. My pal Bernice knows this

too. Bernice and Melvin are planning their wedding. Now that Melvin officially knows that they're

getting married, he's offering helpful suggestions, like putting video game consoles on every table at the

reception so the guests have something fun to do. Bernice did not expect Melvin to be so

helpful. So now she needs to say no. Step one. Say yes to yourself. When you want to say no,

it's because you have a competing commitment that you care

about more. You want to say no to keeping your Nirvana t-shirt because you need room for your

new Justin Bieber t-shirt. No to Nirvana is yes to Justin Bieber. You need to say no when your

boss asks you to work the weekend because you have an important beer funnel party to attend with

friends. No to work is yes to beer funnels.

When I asked Bernice why she didn't want game consoles at her reception, she said,

because I want guests to interact with each other, research shows that health and happiness

come from relationships, not game consoles. Bernice's no to the PlayStation 4, Xbox, and

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