274: The Blame Game

Soberful

Veronica Valli & Chip Somers

Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Education, Self-improvement

4.8 • 611 Ratings

🗓️ 10 July 2024

⏱️ 39 minutes

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Summary

When we get stuck in blame, we become powerless. Chip and Veronica explore how we blame circumstances and other people for our alcohol problem. Blaming is a psychological defence mechanism to justify our drinking behaviour, but it also means we stay stuck in a harmful place. Everybody has 'stuff'. Lots of people who have a drug or alcohol problem had childhood experiences that were harmful, hurtful or abusive. These need to be validated and acknowledged so healing can take place, but ultimately, we get to a point where we need to consider: It's not what happens to you but how you choose to respond to what happens to you that really matters.

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0:00.0	Hey, everybody, you are listening to the Soberful podcast. I'm Veronica.
0:04.3	And I'm Chip.
0:05.5	How are you doing, Chip? You're doing all right?
0:07.7	I am doing very well. I have, well, yeah, I'm doing very well. I've just had two
0:14.1	holidays abroad, short week holidays, four days each time. One to Bologna, one to back home to my friend in Stockholm.
0:24.3	And they've both required inordinate amounts of walking. Beautiful places to walk around,
0:32.1	but I came home absolutely exhausted. I mean, Bologna with Heidi, and she walks a lot, and I thought, well,
0:41.6	I mean, we were doing like 18,000 steps a day on my pedometer. Yeah, that's a lot. Yes, thank you.
0:49.7	Went to Stockholm, was doing 19, 20,000 a day. That's a lot.
0:54.7	And it was like, yeah, up towers again.
0:57.3	Lottie hell, I've done towers this summer.
1:00.0	The summer of towers.
1:02.0	I'm good and probably healthy for it.
1:06.9	But I just want to sit down by a pool somewhere and do nothing for a week.
1:16.0	Yeah.
1:16.6	But otherwise I'm good.
1:18.5	I just got back from California, Northern California.
1:21.8	There was a reunion of my husband's college friends.
1:25.2	And we left Alabama, which is like unbelievably hot and humid
1:29.4	like so hot and humid and went to California and froze it was freezing I can never as a as a
1:36.8	British person I just can't get in my head that California in the summer is cold yeah is this
1:43.9	your first
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