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The SelfWork Podcast

273 SelfWork: Perfectly Hidden Depression, Rabbit Holes, Healing from Narcissists, and Boundaries with BPD

The SelfWork Podcast

Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD

Education, Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Self-improvement

4.81.3K Ratings

🗓️ 11 March 2022

⏱️ 28 minutes

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Summary

Today's episode is full of wonderful email questions from four of you and my answers! We'll cover someone who identifies with perfectly hidden depression and is doing trauma work... but things seem to be getting harder, not easier. Is that normal? A second listener writes in about how difficult it is for her to change habits - and down the rabbit hole she goes, into an emotional space she hates but somehow can't seem to avoid. So how to stop that?

The third question is from a woman whose mom was narcissistic, and she's realizing that she was drawn to partners who also had narcissistic traits. Why does this happen? And fourth, a listener's mom seems to have borderline traits, and doesn't realize the negative impact of her actions and behaviors on others. So the question is how to go forward setting boundaries - and I have two ideas of how she could proceed.

Lots of great topics! So in this episode, sponsored by Athletic Greens, I'll offer my ideas to all four listeners - and am so grateful for not only their questions, but I'm happy that all have sought help from therapy.

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You can hear more of many other topics by listening to my podcast, SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Subscribe to my website and receive one weekly newsletter including my weekly blog post and podcast! If you’d like to join my FaceBook closed group, then clickhere and answer the membership questions! Welcome!

My book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression is available and you can order here! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the many self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life.

And here's another way to send me a message! You can record by clicking below and ask your question or make a comment. You’ll have 90 seconds to do so and that time goes quickly. By recording, you’re giving SelfWork (and me) permission to use your voice on the podcast. I’ll look forward to hearing from you!

 

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Transcript

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0:00.0

This is Selfwork, and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford.

0:14.1

At Selfwork, we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world

0:19.0

and what to do about them.

0:20.4

I'm Dr. Margaret, and Selfwork is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today

0:26.2

for your own Selfwork.

0:29.8

Hello, and welcome to Selfwork.

0:31.8

I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford.

0:32.9

I'm a clinical psychologist, and I've lived and worked in Fable, Arkansas for almost

0:37.4

30 years.

0:38.7

I started Selfwork five years ago in order to extend the walls of my practice to those

0:43.8

of you who might already be very interested in emotional psychological issues.

0:48.2

Maybe you're in therapy to those of you who've just been diagnosed or are dealing with

0:52.2

some kind of problem that you are having some struggles understanding or knowing what

0:57.3

to do, but also to a third group of you.

1:00.5

To those of you who might be a bit disdainful about the whole therapy process thinking it's

1:05.8

just for people who can't make up their minds or who are weak, and I'm here as a testament

1:11.3

to the idea that I don't believe that.

1:13.7

I believe it takes a lot of courage to go into therapy.

1:16.7

And perhaps by listening to Selfwork, you'll learn what I mean.

1:20.4

Welcome to all of you.

1:22.8

The last two episodes we featured two really wonderful conversations, one with Brian Premack

1:28.4

and the other with Talia Morone-Chance, on subjects that I grew to really appreciate their

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