Hello, hello, and welcome to the new mindset who this podcast my name is case Kenny at case.cannyon

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All right welcome to episode 271 hello my friend welcome to a fresh new episode of new mindset who this is the podcast where I talk about a lot of different things dating relationships self confidence self esteem how to love yourself how to catch feelings for yourself.

But ultimately what I'm always actually talking about is self awareness that's the real power move in life it's self awareness how self aware are you how aware are you of your own bullshit how aware are you of what you want of what you deserve in life.

I genuinely believe that self awareness is the solution to so many of our problems and frustrations in life the you know the more you know why you do the things you do the more you know what you deserve what you value it's so much easier than to go out and find similarly minded people to it's so much easier to go out and say no to say yes to do what's right for you.

So that's what I preach on the podcast and I love it I love hop you on here twice a week and chatting through these topics and then seeing your amazing feedback the way you tag me on Instagram the ratings and reviews the DMs it's also very very cool to me.

But with that being said I'm going to hop into this episode and I think it's a really good one it's about a term I heard before but I never really like thought about until recently and then when I did I was like wow this is very very relevant this is something.

That we've all experienced in our lives in dating and relationship and this is the idea of being in an expiration ship an expiration ship that's a relationship that you know deep down has an expiration date.

It's a relationship that serves a purpose for a short amount of time but ultimately you know it's not going to last it's not going anywhere it's like you know sleeping in in the morning and just having that feeling that your alarm is about to go off you know that feeling it's like a six sense that you're about to be jolted up from sleep an expiration it's a relationship that serves a purpose for a short amount of time but ultimately you know it's not going to last.

And with that is the definition you know that you deserve more than being in a expiration ship and likely if you're self aware to this topic you know that you got into a relationship for the wrong reasons when you recognize that it is an expiration ship.

Expiration ship a relationship you got into for the wrong reasons so I wanted to do a quick episode on this and chat about what those wrong reasons might be because I'm pretty confident in saying that if you get into a relationship for the wrong reasons it's likely going to become an expiration ship because a relationship built on the wrong reasons it's not going to last.

How could it it's not going to last because it's not built on the right why w h y why so I'm going to talk about this a little bit and we'll get into it it's like in the same way that you deserve more than being in a situation ship I've talked about that topic before in the podcast in the same way that you deserve more than being in a situation ship you deserve more than being in an expiration ship.

In the case of a situation ship though that's a relationship where both or one person are really just unsure about what they're doing they're unsure of the other person or what they want but ultimately like things are fun things are cool this X is great so the relationship continues all while that person continues to keep their options open until something better comes along that's a situation ship but an expiration ship is a bit different though in the fact that both people are not going to be able to do it.

The fact that both people might be committed to the relationship but they don't really know why they don't know why because there's no powerful underpinning why for the relationship why are we together well in this case it's likely for the wrong reasons and that's what makes an expiration ship an expiration ship.

And to my introduction self-awareness will make you realize that you're actually in that relationship for the wrong reasons or your partner is in it for the wrong reasons but either way being in a relationship for the wrong reasons is a one way ticket to an expiration ship and you deserve better than that of course you do we all deserve better than that so I put together a list of reasons a list of wrong reasons to be in a relationship and I'm just going to go through them here because I think it's really powerful.

We might find some reminders here that we need and if you listen to the podcast you know that in my 20s I was a relationship guy I was in several two to three year long relationships you know serial monogamous was my middle name in my 20s but in my 30s the past three years of my 30s these have been my single years and it's during this time that I've come across so many tempting words.

Tempting wrong reasons to be in a relationship so many and while I say that yeah these are wrong reasons in the moment they don't seem wrong they just seem tempting and you might feel pressured into thinking that they're good reasons or they're good enough reasons to be in a relationship and I think that's normal of course that's not going to blame yourself for but I've realized that what I'm about to talk about these reasons here they're simply not good enough reasons to be in a relationship with someone.

Because when you're not you know empowered by the right reasons when they don't align with the why that you have in your mind and your heart and your soul that's setting a foundation for a relationship that is going to expire and I've said that word why a bunch and I'm going to say it a bunch more in this episode but if you've read my book single as your superpower or you listen to the pot before you know that I'm big on this idea of why why why

you know why are you dating someone why are you interested in committing to someone an answer of I don't want to be alone that's not a why an answer of I want to start a family that's not a why an answer of well all my friends are in relationships I want to be in one as well that is not a why you need we need to have a very specific a very powerful a very thought through why why are we dating and then more importantly when we come across someone in that

where you're interested in why are we interested in that person and a relationship that's built on that why it has real possibilities but a relationship built on something that is not thought out that is not personal that is what leads to an

expiration and you deserve better than an expiration ship of course you do you deserve better than being in a relationship that's going to expire that's going to expire because it was one that you got into because it was comfortable because it put an end to your loneliness because it's what the other person wanted and they pressured you into into getting on the same

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