27. “I don’t care about what he wants, I just want to win the argument”

Money For Couples with Ramit Sethi

Ramit Sethi

Business, Relationships, Society & Culture, Investing

4.6 • 124 Ratings

🗓️ 25 January 2022

⏱️ 62 minutes

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Summary

It all started with a splurge at Target. Tami spent $250 and tried to hide it from her husband, Mike. He likes to make digs and police her spending habits. She likes to make jokes about his bad purchases. They’re sparring over gas station snacks and unused kayaks, and each “win” gives them the satisfaction of saying, “I told you so.” These seemingly minor annoyances are covering much deeper resentment issues. As you’re listening, think about the habits you and your partner have. Ask yourself: are they serving you? Connect with Ramit Website Instagram Twitter Facebook YouTube Linkedin If you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here. Produced by Crate Media.

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0:00.0	Before we get back to the episode, I want to make sure you know about something that I'm sending out this Saturday.
0:05.0	You know, when I was in my 20s, I spent money like a lot of people in their 20s.
0:09.0	Going out for drinks, eating cheap food, a little bit of traveling.
0:13.0	But in my 40s, my spending looks really different.
0:17.0	And that's totally normal.
0:18.0	Have you ever thought about how your money spending changes from your 20s to your 30s of 40s and beyond?
0:25.0	That's what I'm going to talk about this Saturday.
0:28.0	Because as you earn more and as your values change, so should your spending.
0:33.0	Get on my podcast newsletter at IWT.com slash podcast newsletter.
0:37.0	So I can share what changed in my spending in my 20s, 30s and 40s.
0:42.0	That's this Saturday, October 7th.
0:44.0	You can only get this at IWT.com slash podcast newsletter.
0:48.0	Now back to the episode.
0:55.0	I have a harder, more stressful job.
0:57.0	I make more money, like, and we don't have an even split of certain things.
1:02.0	Honestly, I'm terrible when we get into fights like that because I tend to just almost like black out.
1:08.0	Like I can't even tell you details of any of the arguments.
1:12.0	I honestly like I felt a little bit taken advantage of it.
1:15.0	I just think that it's really important to us to not recreate some of what we experience
1:24.0	as children. We knew like going into being parents that we were going to have to just be better.
1:31.0	You know, it's easier said than done.
1:38.0	I like to introduce you to Tammy and Mike.
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