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Honeydew Me

Cassandra Anderson

Self-improvement, Education, Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 533 Ratings

🗓️ 13 May 2026

⏱️ 60 minutes

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Summary

Cass turns 30 the day this episode drops, and this is the conversation we wish someone had handed us at 22. Not our Pinterest board versions of adulthood (there was too much turquoise and chevron on there anyway). The real one, where "adult money" gets spent on prenatal vitamins for thinning hair, a trampoline, and a personal finance book. Emma found her old high school career class papers this week. Sixteen-year-old Emma wanted to open an equine therapy center, planned to go to college in the Pacific Northwest (where she'd meet her husband), wanted to fix "ignorance" in the world (misspelled), and confessed her most recent life lesson was that she didn't like pot pies but kept making them anyway. Emma's now 30, single, and living alone. Cass swore she'd be single, childfree, and a world-traveling journalist, and now she's married with a kid. We use that gap as the jumping-off point for the lives we pictured versus the lives we actually built. In this episode: Cass on what nobody tells you: trying to be skinny made her miserable. Trying to be strong made her feel hot. "If you want to be someone who does, then do." How buying one shirt led to a triathlon, a solo trip to Europe, and fly fishing in Wyoming. Why "have more opinions" is a real New Year's resolution. The shift from being palatable for everyone to picking your people. Why community asks you to be inconvenienced, and the unsexy truth that no, it doesn't just happen if it's meant for you. Making and keeping friends as an adult when nobody's built-in anymore. What the listener polls said about what changes most in your 30s (spoiler: 48% of you said the same thing). Emma's 30th birthday recap: 90% on the couch, 5% in a hot tub, 100% a little high. What we hope we're doing at 40, and what we hope we never do. For anyone in their late 20s or 30s who suspects all the adults around them are also winging it. Thank you to Bellesa for sponsoring this week's episode! EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibeTM OR a FREE Rose toy with any WhisperTM order https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/honeydewme-pod Learn more about 1:1 coaching HERE!⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Get Honeydew Me Merch HERE!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	After literal years of singing their graces, we have finally teamed up with Bolesa.
0:07.0	Yes, you heard that right, the Balesa, to give every single one of you a free vibrator.
0:14.0	Hold your applause.
0:15.3	It sounds too good to be true, but that's kind of the thing with Bolesa.
0:18.8	They really are that good.
0:20.4	They're a buy
0:21.6	women for everyone company that is rewriting the rules when it comes to sexual wellness,
0:27.2	much like your girls. We've been buying from them for what, like six years, and every single
0:33.5	toy has been a banger. It also helps that they have some top-tier ethical material to watch
0:41.0	while you're using said toys, if you know what I mean. I know what you mean. Okay, now you're
0:46.4	probably like, how could this possibly get any better? Well, we've gotten a number of complaints
0:51.4	over the years that you honeies haven't been able to find a vibe that's quiet enough to let you get it on without leaving the whole house wondering what that buzzing noise is coming from your bedroom.
1:03.7	And while we're all for sexual empowerment, obviously, sometimes we just need to meet ourselves where we're at.
1:09.8	And that's why Bolesa just
1:11.2	launched their first ever silent vibrators. They created what they're calling whisper tech.
1:17.1	So these are full power, totally silent toys. And their current lineup includes the
1:22.4	whisper vibe, whisper rabbit, and whisper bullet. So yeah, give me one of each.
1:30.2	Okay, so back to the free vibes.
1:36.1	We're doing a giveaway with Balesa where everyone wins a free spicy toy. You'll either get a fully free whisper vibe or a free rose suction toy with any whisper order. You know that viral rose
1:42.8	shape suction toy that's all over your
1:44.7	Instagram feed? Retails for $99, but you get it for free. All you got to do is click the link
1:50.8	in the episode description or head to bbibs.com slash honey. That's b-b-v-e-es.com slash h-o-n-e-y-y-y-y-y-y.
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