#265: The Hard (and Hopeful) Truth About Losing a Spouse
Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex
Authentic Intimacy®
4.9 • 1.7K Ratings
🗓️ 3 June 2019
⏱️ 53 minutes
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Summary
“God created our bodies to become one in marriage in a very physical and neurological way. When that is suddenly ripped apart, there’s a severe grieving that happens …and nobody talks about it.” In this episode Juli sits down with Rachael Flick, widow of fallen police officer Micah Flick, to learn about living through the loss of a spouse. Whether you’re divorced or widowed (or you know someone who recently has been), grab your java and pull up a chair for an honest conversation about the difficult moments, the beautiful moments, and the daily life in between.
Guest: Rachael Flick
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| 0:00.0 | Hey friend, this is Julie Slattery and you're listening to Job with Julie. |
| 0:09.6 | This podcast is a production of authentic intimacy, a menstruate dedicated to reclaiming God's |
| 0:15.0 | design for sexuality. The conversation I'm sharing with you today is with my friend Rachel |
| 0:20.5 | Flick. |
| 0:21.5 | Rachel lost her husband Micah when he was shot while on duty as a police officer in Colorado Springs. |
| 0:27.9 | The sexual bond that severed when he loses spouse is something that we just don't talk about or even acknowledge. |
| 0:34.6 | So Rachel graciously agreed to sit down with me and talk about things that widows and |
| 0:38.9 | widowers experience like something called grief brain, learning how to tell your friends what you need, |
| 0:44.9 | and asking hard questions like, is it wrong for me to sexually fantasize about the spouse that I've |
| 0:50.0 | lost? Whether you've lost a spouse to death or divorce. I hope you'll find hope and healing |
| 0:56.3 | in our conversation today or maybe encouragement for somebody you know who's grieving. And as |
| 1:01.7 | always, if you enjoy listening to Job with Julie, just hit subscribe button on your favorite |
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| 1:13.8 | like our Bible study passion pursuit or to check out my blog. |
| 1:17.5 | Now let's head to the coffee shop with Rachel Flick. |
| 1:21.6 | Well, Rachel, thank you so much for taking the time to share a little bit of your journey. |
| 1:27.1 | I know that you said that you're |
| 1:28.6 | coming to this conversation maybe with as many questions as things to share. Absolutely. Yeah. So we'll |
| 1:35.5 | just kind of let it unfold. I'm excited to see what we discover here in this space. Yeah. So I know that |
| 1:42.1 | a lot of times we hear terrible things in the news and our hearts break. We hear about the latest shooting. We hear about violence and we pray for that city. But it feels very distant. Yes. We can remove ourselves from it. It's on to the next news cycle. |
| 2:01.5 | Yeah, but you are the news. |
| 2:04.9 | You are living in the news. |
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