So the other day I was coming home from a youth activity and I was giving a girl a ride home in our ward in our

church congregation and I love that I get to work with the young women in our

ward and one of them was kind of telling me, I was asking you're like,

what's going on at school, what's going on with friends, you know, what are you up to these

days? And she was telling me about kind of some drama that she was having with friends.

And she said, she was explaining this girl that she goes to school with and she said,

yeah, you know, on the popularity scale like she's way up here and I'm like way down here.

And I just looked at her and I said, that is not a thing.

That is not a thing unless you make it a thing.

That is, that has no relevance in real life. It definitely

doesn't have any relevance in the next life. And that only has as much power as you give it.

And she just looked at me like deer in

headlights like what did you just say and I just have thought about it so

much where I'm like man I remember feeling that way in middle school, feeling like, oh, these are the popular kids and I'm kind of somewhere maybe in the middle. You know, I'll never rise to the top. And the older you get, the more you, I'll never rise to the top and the older you get the more you I think most people realize

how irrelevant that is but it feels very real in the moment and I think that we still do things like that as adults you know where you can stop and say

wait a minute that's this is not a thing unless you make it a thing you know so

I wanted to talk about that today because I feel like there's a lot of things in our world that we just need to pay attention to what we're giving a lot of power to

Yeah, no I immediately anytime like this type of a topic comes up. I immediately go to middle school like I think that was just such a brutal time for me.

But I totally remember that.

I remember it was almost like scripted in socially to totally I totally grew up with that thinking like oh there's there's like a hierarchy there's like a

you know there's levels of how cool how popular like these

kids are here like you know and it's it's this like stratification that's that's so detailed and and they and they portrayed

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