265. How to Handle Urges That Keep Coming Back
Overcome Pornography for Good
Sara Brewer
4.9 • 729 Ratings
🗓️ 16 February 2026
⏱️ 23 minutes
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Summary
Why do urges seem to disappear, only to come right back? If you’ve ever processed an urge and then felt discouraged when it returned, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening. I’m talking about urge flow, the natural pattern of urges coming and going, and why this is not a sign that you’re doing it wrong. It is part of learning how to handle them in a new way.
When you stop relying on willpower and start allowing urges instead of resisting them, they will ebb and flow. The goal is not to make them vanish. The goal is to become someone who can feel discomfort without reacting to it. In this episode, I share why trying to force urges away keeps you stuck and how building the skill of processing them creates real strength and confidence.
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| 0:00.0 | You're listening to the Overcome Pornography for Good Podcast, episode 265. |
| 0:06.3 | Welcome to the Overcome Pornography for Good podcast where we take a research-based, trauma-informed, and results-focused approach to quitting porn. |
| 0:17.1 | This approach has been revolutionary and changed thousands and thousands of lives. |
| 0:22.6 | I'm your host, Sarah Brewer. |
| 0:26.2 | Hey everyone, welcome to Overcome Pornography for Good. |
| 0:29.7 | In today's episode, I'm revisiting a topic that I believe will offer you so many insights, |
| 0:34.5 | some amazing takeaways, no matter where you are in your journey. I hope you find it |
| 0:39.6 | as impactful as when it first aired. It's always an amazing thing to revisit some of these |
| 0:44.6 | topics that we need to hear multiple times. Or if you haven't heard it before, I'm excited for you to |
| 0:49.8 | hear this. So welcome and let's dive in. Here we are today and I'm glad to be here. We're going to talk about urge flow. We're going to dive into your urges a little bit more, how to handle urges, what to do when your urges seem to keep coming back. I hear this all the time. This is something that I answer questions on a lot and coach around a lot is, hey, my urges keep coming back. What do I do? |
| 1:11.1 | So we're going to dive into that. Before we dive into that, I want to share some wins with you that some |
| 1:16.2 | of my clients are having. And the reason that I really want to share these is because these are |
| 1:21.6 | stories of people that are accomplishing and doing exactly what you want to do. I share these to give hope and to give |
| 1:32.7 | evidence of what's possible. So first from one of my clients, and I won't say his name, |
| 1:38.4 | but he's only been in the program for a couple weeks and he sent me this message, |
| 1:42.8 | just of a win, said, I wanted to quickly express the |
| 1:47.2 | changes that I've seen in the few weeks that I have been working with you through your program. |
| 1:52.2 | I have felt so much hope and excitement for the future. I have felt an immense decrease in |
| 1:59.0 | shame for my past and current actions. |
| 2:01.6 | These two things together seem to compound on each other, much like shame did, but in the |
| 2:07.0 | opposite direction, right? Just how detrimental as shame was for him, this new hope and |
| 2:13.7 | excitement is just as good for him as the shame was detrimental is what he's saying. |
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