262 SelfWork: Do You Choose Happiness? And If So, Do You Choose Depression?
The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
4.8 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 10 December 2021
⏱️ 21 minutes
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Summary
Perhaps one of the most complex concepts in mental health is the concept of choice. More specifically, there’s a huge and dramatic debate over the idea that someone “chooses” depression or anxiety. I myself have panic disorder as many of you know and it riles me up a bit to hear from someone that I chose at one point in my life to shake and sweat, for my heart to race as if I’m facing a monster – when it was simply my turn to introduce myself at a meeting. So on today's SelfWork, sponsored by Athletic Greens, we’re going to try to have a reasonable look at choice - choice theory, positive psychology and just how far you should go with the concept of choice in mental health issues and especially, trauma.
The listener email today is from a woman who says that she’s dissociated often since childhood and the habit or the tendency is now getting in her way of staying in the present especially when she’s with family. And she picks her nails when she dissociates so that maybe there’s a clue there!
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APA's article on Choice Theory
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Martin Seligman's TED Talk on positive psychology
Carol Kauffman's article in the Harvard Mental Health Letter on how to integrate positive psychology into more traditional therapy
Cleveland Clinic's article on depersonalization/derealization disorder
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | This is Selfwork, and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. |
| 0:14.1 | At Selfwork, we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world |
| 0:19.0 | and what to do about them. |
| 0:20.4 | I'm Dr. Margaret, and Selfwork is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today |
| 0:26.2 | for your own Selfwork. |
| 0:29.8 | Hello, and welcome to Selfwork. |
| 0:31.7 | I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. |
| 0:33.0 | I'm a clinical psychologist, and I've lived and worked in Fable, Arkansas for about 28 |
| 0:37.8 | years now, almost 30. |
| 0:39.7 | I started Selfwork five years ago in order to extend the walls of my practice to those |
| 0:44.3 | of you who might like it another opinion, even though you're in therapy or you're just |
| 0:47.8 | interested in psychological and emotional issues. |
| 0:50.7 | For those of you who might just been diagnosed with something or you're having a relationship |
| 0:55.4 | problem that you're seeking answers for, but also to those of you who would look at |
| 0:59.2 | a friend of yours and go, ah, that therapy stuff's got a nut, but you're just curious |
| 1:03.5 | enough or sadly unhappy enough to listen in. |
| 1:08.2 | Welcome to all of you. |
| 1:10.0 | Perhaps one of the more complex concepts in mental health is the concept of choice. |
| 1:15.6 | There's even a thing called choice theory out there which we'll touch on. |
| 1:19.0 | Of course, the field of positive psychology is huge these days, and it definitely focuses |
| 1:24.1 | on choice. |
| 1:25.9 | More specifically, there's a huge and dramatic debate over the idea that someone chooses |
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