261. Understanding Urges and Why They're Not Dangerous
Overcome Pornography for Good
Sara Brewer
4.9 • 730 Ratings
🗓️ 19 January 2026
⏱️ 14 minutes
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Summary
Are you afraid of your urges? Many people struggle with the fear and discomfort they feel when urges to view pornography arise. But what if you could completely change how you relate to these urges? In this episode, I’m revisiting one of the most important topics for anyone looking to overcome pornography: understanding that urges are not a problem.
You’ll learn how to separate urges from the thoughts that create them and how to describe your urges in neutral, non-dramatic language that makes them feel much less overwhelming. By the end of this episode, you'll know how to sit with 100 urges and make them no longer something you fear. This is the work of true self-control and will completely transform your journey to freedom.
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| 0:00.0 | You're listening to the Overcome Pornography for Good Podcast, episode 261. |
| 0:06.8 | Welcome to the Overcome Pornography for Good podcast where we take a research-based, trauma-informed, and results-focused approach to quitting porn. |
| 0:17.7 | This approach has been revolutionary and changed thousands and thousands of lives. I'm your |
| 0:23.6 | host, Sarah Brewer. Hey everyone, welcome to Overcome Pornography for Good. In today's episode, I'm |
| 0:31.4 | revisiting a topic that I believe will offer you so many insights, some amazing takeaways, |
| 0:36.6 | no matter where you are in your journey. |
| 0:39.2 | I hope you find it as impactful as when it first aired. It's always an amazing thing to revisit |
| 0:44.6 | some of these topics that we need to hear multiple times. Or if you haven't heard it before, |
| 0:49.5 | I'm excited for you to hear this. So welcome and let's dive in. |
| 0:58.6 | Well, hi, everyone. I'm so excited to be here today. |
| 1:04.8 | I'm so excited to share this topic with you on urges. This is one of my most requested topics and one that is kind of the most mind-blowing. So I do want to go a little bit more into addressing fear and specifically addressing fear |
| 1:14.3 | around urges. So really quickly, what is an urge? If you haven't followed me for a while, |
| 1:19.1 | I use that word urge a lot. But what an urge is, is it's just another name for desire. So it's that |
| 1:25.5 | feeling of desire. It's that feeling of being pulled towards something, of wanting something. It's just another name for desire. And so it's that feeling of desire. It's that feeling of being |
| 1:28.1 | pulled towards something, of wanting something. It's an urge to go and get it. And many of you, |
| 1:33.7 | when you think about pornography and your urge is to view pornography, you're very afraid of these |
| 1:37.2 | urges. And like I mentioned, what I want to show you today is that an urge isn't actually a problem |
| 1:41.9 | and it's nothing to be afraid of. And here's why. An urge is a |
| 1:47.6 | feeling, which means that it's a vibration in your body. That's all an urge is. It's a vibration in |
| 1:54.2 | your body. It's not a hole that you're going to get lost in. It's not a demon inside you that's |
| 2:00.4 | making you do something. It's not |
| 2:02.7 | dangerous. An urge is a vibration in your body, period. We're going to get into that and what |
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