Welcome to sex chat for Christian wives.

We're four marriage and sex bloggers discuss the naked truth.

What does God really want for the sexual intimacy in our marriage?

I'm Jay Parker of Hot Holy and Humorous.

I'm Chris Taylor from The Forgiven Wife.

I'm Gay Christmas of Calm, Healthy, Sexy.

I'm Bonnie Burns of Oyster Bed 7. Welcome to Sex Chat for Christian Wives. In this episode, we're going to chat about questions submitted by you or listeners. So let's just dig in. Okay. One of our listeners said, I would love to hear your thoughts on the love languages.

My husband and I are close, but his love language is my lowest scoring love language.

What would you say to those types of couples?

My husband hates taking assessments that tell him what he is.

You know, we get it different every time we take those tests.

But to me, I would say that it's really important to do two things.

One is to love your husband in the way that he needs or prefers to be loved.

Actually, there are three things. One is to love him the needs or prefers to be loved. Actually, there are three things. One is to love him

the way he prefers to be loved. The other is to look for him demonstrating love in the way that

matters to him. But also, the third thing is to also be sure you're letting him know very specifically

what you need in order to feel loved.

Well, I'm going to be real cliche and just say opposites attract.

So usually, not always.

I know every marriage is different.

But like Jay, my husband and I, his top love language, was my lowest, was my lowest.

And we did the Willard Harley, 10 top needs when we went through all this assessment that

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