You're going to be. Welcome to the happiness podcast. I'm Dr. Robert Puff. Suffering.

painful events.

Bad things happening to us.

This is something we're all going to go through in life. We are going to suffer.

It's inevitable. It's part of the human conditioning.

It's just part of being alive.

Sometimes bad things happen and we suffer. Right now some of us

may be in the hospital because of an illness, others of us may be heartbroken because of the end of a loving relationship.

We may be struggling with severe depression because we haven't been able to find work for several

years.

We all know the stories of suffering. But in today's

podcast I want to look at what do we do with suffering? What are our options? There are three. We can suppress them, we can feel them, and we can grow from them.

Let me explain. The first one we can suppress them is often the most tempting and what many, many people do.

Perhaps most people do this one. It's why there is so much suffering in the world.

Because when we suppress our suffering, it doesn't go away, it just gets put aside for a little bit, and then we need more and more to suppress it.

Let me use an example to illustrate this.

Have you ever gone to a movie or watch television where someone breaks up with the love of their life and then they go off and get severely drunk for two or three days in a row, come out of it, and then they move on.

Sadly, though, this is amazingly common.

When we have suffering, what we do is we turn sometimes the substances, sometimes to other people.

We turn to things to turn off the suffering.

I once gave a talk to a group of people about suffering,

and a woman came up to me later and said,

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