Hello, hello, and welcome to the new mindset who this podcast my name is case Kenny at case.cannyon

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leave your comfort zone and live a fulfilling and purposeful life. Let's go.

All right welcome to episode 259. Hello my friend welcome to a fresh new episode of new mindset who this and just a quick thank you for listening.

It still is very very cool to me that complete strangers take you know 15 to 20 minutes to listen to my thoughts.

And that's just me just a random dude on the internet just to do likes to work out and share his feelings and I just think that's so so cool.

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You're way cooler than I am so I appreciate that thank you for taking the time to do that thank you for listening thank you for all the support of my new journal unbothered you all have picked up far more than I ever thought was possible.

So thank you for that thank you for visiting new mindset who this calm it means the world to me so thank you for that and I'll get right into the topic that I want to talk about today.

And I guess at a glance it's kind of a fan favorite it's like the talk of the town when it comes to dating topics or relationship topics and that's the topic of fuck boys.

I think if I if I had a nickel for every time I saw a quote on Instagram about this or an article online about this or if I had a nickel for every time I heard someone say like oh you don't forget him he's just a fuck boy.

I'd be rich at this point like it's it's that rampant that people talk about this so I figured that I would kind of settle this once and for all and that you know answering the question of what do you do when you come across one of these characters what should your mindset be when it comes to dealing with a fuck boy.

And I say that because I've seen a lot of like defeated attitudes lately a lot of self blame lately kind of a lot of a lot of it's kind of a vibe of like it's me against the world me against the world that's filled with fuck boys and like that's the vibe.

And I don't think that's fair to you I don't think that's fair to you particularly when you've been hurt or wronged or deceived to turn your blame inward so I have some thoughts here that I think will be really helpful for you.

And like so to start I think you know we've reached peak fuck boy when the term has literally been added to the dictionary when good old Mariam and his homey Webster have decided that it deserves to a place in the English language that's a yikes we've gotten to this point.

And so just so we're on the same page here here here's the definition of a fuck boy according to dictionary dot com it's someone who doesn't respect women but relies on them heavily he's someone who is distant distant doesn't care about other people's time won't commit he is self absorbed does stupid things and messes with other people's emotions sounds pretty accurate right and I'll state the maybe not so obvious here but I'll just say it I think it's worth mentioning.

That yes this is mostly men doing these things of course but everyone at some point in their life can you know fit the bill of being a fuck boy so let's not make sweet sweeping generalizations about men versus women or anything like that but for the sake of this episode will keep the fuck boy title and and also like I think it's worth saying that let's remember that it's not you against the world it's not you against fuck boys

And I say that because if you're honest with yourself you've been this person at some point in your life unless you're squeaky clean and perfect you've been this person you've done things that you're not particularly proud of you've led people on in self serving ways you've acted out of self interest you haven't been completely honest with someone you're dating I have I certainly have I am not innocent and likely neither are you and that's okay there's no there's no blame game here

when it comes to that but let's take this message here with a sense of self awareness and a sense of vulnerability to know that just as fuck boys are clearly not perfect neither are you neither am I let's not get on a high horse about us first them so I just put that put that to the side just remember that

for a second but for the sake of this episode I want to be very specific and I want to empower you because you don't deserve at this point in your life to be on the receiving end of a of a fuck boy

so let's do this episode because I'm a huge fan of you and I really am so let's talk about a scenario where you as a human who's dating and you your intentions are true and real

you're acting out of compassion for yourself and others you're honest with other people you're communicating you're all those great things but then you end up on the receiving end of the heart that a fuck boy brings into your life right so that's the context for this so again it's a fuck boy it's it's someone who is self-absorbed who doesn't respect other people's time who won't commit who messes with other people's emotions that is a fuck boy and maybe I'll use the term fb from here on I'm not going to be a fuck boy

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