256. 10 Ways to Be a Good Partner (Even When You Have ADHD)

I Have ADHD Podcast

Kristen Carder

Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Education, Mental Health

4.8 • 2.8K Ratings

🗓️ 26 March 2024

⏱️ 36 minutes

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Summary

I’ve been married to Greg Carder for almost 20 years years. This man is the only one for me! But when I tell you we couldn’t be more different...

He's calm, steady, and methodical, and he doesn't mind mundane tasks like laundry. I mean, COME ON!

Through a lot of trial and error combined with years of ADHD research on my end, we’ve learned a thing or two about how to be a good partner. More specifically — how to be a good partner to someone who’s neurotypical when you have ADHD.

I’ve coached a lot of FOCUSED members on their relationships, and I see the same struggle: Either they’re not taking their ADHD seriously and getting treated or their partner isn’t taking it seriously and is dismissing their needs. Both ways create major issues in any ADHD relationship.

Hear me when I say that to be a good partner, you have to get treated for your ADHD. You need to take responsibility for your mental health condition. This part isn't optional.

Because if you’re not taking your diagnosis seriously, you can’t expect your partner to either.

In this episode of the I Have ADHD Podcast, we’re taking a deep dive into how to be a good partner when you have ADHD. I’m breaking this down into 10 simple steps that you can analyze and apply to your relationship.

These steps work for marriages, friendships, family, and business relationships. This episode has something for everyone who’s in a relationship. Period.

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0:00.0	Welcome to the I have ADHD podcast where it's all about education, encouragement and
0:11.2	coaching for adults with ADHD.
0:13.5	I'm your host Kristen Carter and I have ADHD.
0:17.5	Let's chat about the frustrations, humor, and challenges
0:21.1	of adulting, relationships, working, and achieving with this neurodevelopmental disorder.
0:27.0	I'll help you understand your unique brain, unlock your potential, and move from point A to point B.
0:37.3	Hey what's up, this is Kristen Carter and you are listening to the I Have
0:40.8	ADHD podcast. I am medicated, I am regulated, and I am ready to roll.
0:48.0	I was going to say something cute in there about stinking daylight savings time making me so gosh dang tired but by the time this
0:56.3	comes out that's not even going to be a thing anymore and you're all going to be
0:59.9	recovered from it but listen to me when I say I am struggling I am on the
1:05.0	struggle bus what is it about moving the clocks that like throws everything
1:11.0	off I don't know if this is just exclusive to neurodivergent
1:14.8	folks but like I am struggling. I have a bit of a lazy eye. This is so this
1:21.5	does not matter about I'm putting it in here.
1:23.0	I'm a little lazy eye, my left eye kind of droops a little bit, you know, it's fine.
1:28.0	None of us are fully symmetrical.
1:31.0	And when I am tired it is like it is so bad and so I'm just here with
1:37.7	old lefty me and my droopy eye hanging out with you today because your girl is struggling.
1:45.8	All right, well, I mean, like I said, this is not even going to matter to you because by the
1:49.8	time that you hear it, you're going to be fully recovered, but at least stand in solidarity with me right?
1:55.2	Like it is it is too hard. We're going to be talking today about how to be a good partner.
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