Imagine winning a million dollars and not being able to even afford a sandwich at the airport. Buckle up because today we're joined by multi-time survivor winner, Parvety Shallow, and she's pulling back the curtain on everything you thought you knew about being a contestant on reality TV. Parvety Shallow is the winner of Survivor Micronesia, fan favorite on Heroes versus Villains, and now author of the new memoir, Nice Girls Don't Win,

How I Burned It All Down to Claim My Power. Oh, and she also just wants Survivor again,

this time on Australia versus the World. I was at JFK flying back from the finale with a million

dollar check in my purse and could not buy a sandwich because my card was getting declined.

And if you don't watch Survivor, maybe you watch a little show called The Traders, where she has been featured twice. Parvety and I dive into her journey from growing up in a high-control spiritual community. She might not call it a cult, because legally she can't, but I'll call it a cult, to becoming one of the most iconic reality TV players in history, to unpacking the scarcity mindset that drove her for decades.

I would go to a friend's birthday party, and I would be talking to someone, and I would be in

the back of my mind while I'm smiling and having a conversation with them thinking, what does this

person want for me?

Are they trying to get something?

Can I trust them? Are they using me get something? Can I trust them? Are they

using me for something? It was like this game that I could not break my brain out of.

We talk about money, survival, queerness, motherhood, and what it actually takes to stop playing

small and start living fully in alignment with yourself. Because I was so in the survival mode, it's like an

impressionist painting. If you're up too close, you don't, you can't see the landscape.

That's how I was living my life. I was just running through my survival modes.

If you've ever been called too much or felt like you had to contort yourself to belong,

this episode is an invitation to burn it all down and to build

something real. Let's get into it. But first, a word from our sponsors. This podcast is brought to you

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