254. Honey Archive: "HELP! The Sex Is Bad..."

Honeydew Me

Cassandra Anderson

Self-improvement, Education, Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 533 Ratings

🗓️ 18 February 2026

⏱️ 39 minutes

🔗️ Recording | iTunes | RSS

🧾️ Download transcript

Summary

In this week’s Honey Archive episode we’re answering one of YOUR questions with a mix of expert insight, personal experience, and a very real conversation about what to do when the sex in your relationship just isn’t clicking. If you’ve ever loved someone but felt disconnected in the bedroom, this one’s for you. The Question:“I’ve been with my boyfriend for a while now, and the sex… it’s just not great. It’s not that we don’t like each other, but it just feels off. I want to be honest, I just don’t know how to approach it, so please HELP!” We cover: Questions to ask yourself first. How to figure out whether the issue is chemistry, communication, expectations, or simply not knowing what you actually want yet. Expert tips for talking about sex with a partner. Ways to start the conversation without triggering shame, defensiveness, or pressure so it feels collaborative instead of critical. How to give honest feedback without being harsh. Why tone, timing, and framing matter and how to express your needs in a way that builds connection instead of distance. What giving feedback in the moment can look like. Small language shifts that help guide your partner without turning sex into a performance review. Why being “bad at sex” is more normal than you think. How most people never receive real sex education and why awkwardness is part of learning, not a sign of incompatibility. The difference between skill issues and deeper mismatches. How to tell when something can grow with communication versus when values, desire, or attraction might not align. Permission to outgrow sexual dynamics that don’t feel good. Why it is okay to want more pleasure, more effort, or a different kind of connection. When it might be time to leave. A grounded conversation about recognizing when the sexual disconnect reflects a bigger relationship issue and giving yourself permission to choose what feels right for you. ⁠⁠⁠⁠Looking to apply these tips to your REAL life? Schedule a FREE 1:1 strategy session with Cass & Em to see if coaching can support you.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Honeydew Me Merch HERE!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcript

Click on a timestamp to play from that location

0:00.0	Hello, you're a gem shine when the light grows dim.
0:04.3	See one, one, two, three, four, three, two, one.
0:08.0	Because no one can do it like who we do it, like who we do it, like we do it, like we do it, like we do it.
0:15.0	Hello, honey bunches of oats and And welcome to HoneyDoMe podcast.
0:23.7	I'm Emma.
0:25.0	And I'm Cass, and I used to fucking love honey bunches of oats.
0:29.1	I still love honey bunches of oats.
0:31.2	Why don't you?
0:32.4	Why have you retired that love?
0:34.3	I'm a mommy.
0:35.5	I'm a mommy.
0:36.6	So back off.
0:37.3	So you can't eat honey bunches of oats.
0:39.2	Don't be unrelatable right now. Don't be unrelatable. I just, I wouldn't buy Kellogg's.
0:44.1	That's going to be relatable to some people. I don't know. You can be the relatable one.
0:50.4	Whatever. Foods-wise, I feel like you are more relatable i'm just too picky yeah you and your kid
0:58.5	you guys have that in common you and your fucking kid okay you and your fucking kid you guys
1:05.4	are pretty picky yeah yeah but you and my husband will eat basically anything.
1:11.2	Just about.
1:12.3	Yeah.
1:12.9	Just about.
1:13.5	Yeah, somewhat.
	...

Please login to see the full transcript.

Previous episode | Next episode

Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from Cassandra Anderson, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.

Generated transcripts are the property of Cassandra Anderson and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.