251. Talking About Sex with Your Partner with Jessica
Overcome Pornography for Good
Sara Brewer
4.9 • 730 Ratings
🗓️ 10 November 2025
⏱️ 27 minutes
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Summary
Talking about sex in a relationship can feel intimidating, especially when pornography use adds another layer of complexity. The vulnerability required to share desires, boundaries, and preferences often triggers fear of rejection and judgment.
In this episode, coach Jessica explores the challenges many couples face when discussing sex, offering practical strategies to navigate these conversations with curiosity and care. She explains why these conversations can feel so difficult, particularly when pornography is involved, and offers a clear framework for approaching them in a way that strengthens connection rather than creating conflict.
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| 0:00.0 | You're listening to the Overcome Pornography for Good Podcast, episode 251. |
| 0:06.1 | Welcome to the Overcome Pornography for Good podcast where we take a research-based, trauma-informed, and results-focused approach to quitting porn. |
| 0:17.0 | This approach has been revolutionary and changed thousands and thousands of lives. |
| 0:22.5 | I'm your host, Sarah Brewer. |
| 0:26.2 | Hi, everybody. Welcome to the podcast. |
| 0:30.6 | My name is Jessica Farmer. |
| 0:33.1 | I'm a coach at the Center for Overcoming Pornography, and I work oneon-one with clients and I also specialize in relationships here in the program. I am super excited to talk about our topic today. This is one that I has been on my mind for a while and it's something that I'm always getting questions about on our relationship |
| 0:56.0 | calls in the program in overcoming pornography for good. So I wanted to bring it here to the podcast. |
| 1:01.9 | And that is how to talk to your partner about sex or like your sexuality or things that you're learning about your sexual self, |
| 1:14.0 | or even like, how do I talk to my partner about things that I like sexually that they may |
| 1:20.9 | not be okay with or they may not like pornography? |
| 1:26.0 | So we're going to talk about it today. We're going to dive in and I'm going to |
| 1:30.2 | give you some ways to kind of prep for those conversations, how to actually like engage in the |
| 1:37.2 | conversations without getting disregulated yourself, right, without getting kind of knocked off balance because that's super |
| 1:46.2 | easy to happen. It's super easy for that to happen in those conversations. And then I want to |
| 1:52.9 | talk a little bit about how to repair and reconnect when those conversations don't go so well. |
| 2:00.4 | Like when you do get thrown off balance or when |
| 2:04.6 | there's a lot of emotions involved, how do we repair and reconnect so that we can keep the ball |
| 2:11.5 | rolling in the relationship? Okay. So first of all, like the very first question that comes to my mind is like, okay, why is it so hard to talk about sex in the first place? |
| 2:24.2 | And as I say that, you're probably like, well, duh. We all know why it's hard, especially when pornography is involved. |
| 2:38.0 | There's so much in our, first of all, in our culture in general, we don't talk about how to talk about sex, right? Our culture for centuries has been |
| 2:48.2 | to really shut down any kind of communication, any kind of conversations about |
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