251 - My Mom Hid a Family Secret for 20 Years…
Life Happens with Barb & Michelle
Michelle Maros & Barb Schmidt
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🗓️ 31 March 2026
⏱️ 57 minutes
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Summary
Have you ever found out someone you love wasn't telling you the whole truth, and even though it wasn't malicious, something inside you shifted? That quiet crack in trust can change a relationship more than any dramatic betrayal ever could.
In this episode of Life Happens with Barb & Michelle, this mother-daughter duo gets deeply personal about dishonesty. Not the headline-grabbing kind, but the everyday white lies, the withheld truths, the stories we tell ourselves about "protecting" the people we love. From family secrets revealed years later to the small manipulations that slowly erode trust, Barb and Michelle unpack what honesty really costs and what it makes possible.
💬 Barb shares how she navigated telling Michelle about her bulimia, a family affair, and the alcoholism in their lineage, and why she trusted life to present the right timing rather than forcing the conversation.
💬 Michelle opens up about what it felt like to learn major truths about her family as a young adult, how those revelations triggered a "what else don't I know?" spiral, and why her mom's non-judgmental space made all the difference.
✨ In This Episode, We Discuss:
- The difference between withholding truth to protect versus withholding to manipulate and control
- How Michelle learned about her dad's affair through a Facebook message years after his death, and how Barb handled the fallout
- Why Barb believes "life will present the timing" for hard conversations with your kids
- The real damage of small, repeated white lies versus big one-time revelations
- How calling someone a "liar" or "gaslighter" can short-circuit a conversation, and what to say instead
- Creating a safe space where your child (or anyone) can tell the truth without being punished first
- Why trust can be broken in a moment but takes patience and intention to rebuild
"I truly believe the truth will set you free. I become tethered to lies."
Whether you're a parent wondering what to share and when, or someone rebuilding trust after it cracked, this episode will make you feel less alone in the mess of it. Barb and Michelle don't pretend to have perfect answers. They just show you what it looks like to keep choosing honesty, even when it's uncomfortable. Pull up a seat and listen in.
0:00 - Cold Open
0:57 - Welcome to Life Happens with Barb & Michelle
1:15 - Introducing Today's Topic: Truth & Dishonesty
2:12 - Truth Used to Be a Core Value — What Changed?
11:21 - Parent-Child Honesty: When & How to Share Hard Truths
13:45 - The "True Hat" Rule: A Family Trust Agreement
19:41 - Finding Out About Dad's Affair Through Facebook
22:18 - Letting Life Present the Right Moment to Tell the Truth
28:38 - Are White Lies More Harmful Than Big Ones?
29:33 - Work Colleague Story: When White Lies Become Control
34:01 - Lying About Drinking as a Teen & Creating Safe Spaces
41:09 - "Raised by Cave People" — Extending Grace to Our Parents
47:07 - Don't Use "You Are" — Use "I Feel" Language
49:27 - Creating Safe Spaces & Repairing Broken Trust
51:16 - Closing & Thank You
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| 1:00.3 | price. Because I think if we as parents can allow our kids to know that we are not perfect and that |
| 1:06.4 | we are flawed and that we've been through those things and not to teach you better, whatever |
| 1:10.2 | actions I was |
| 1:10.9 | taking in my life, hopefully they led to you making smarter choices or you would maybe handle it |
| 1:16.3 | better than I did. So I think that this is a good example for parents not to try to punish. |
| 1:22.4 | I'm not saying there aren't consequences to actions and all of that. We all know all of that. |
| 1:27.0 | We all know you don't just |
| 1:27.9 | let someone go unscathed, especially if it's something detrimental or something really horrible. |
| 1:31.7 | But to do it first, I believe, is not helpful. There's a moment that can quietly change a |
| 1:38.3 | relationship forever. And it's not always the dramatic portrayals. Sometimes it's the moment you realize someone hasn't been fully honest with you. |
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