250. Maintaining long distance friendships in our 20s
The Psychology of your 20s
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🗓️ 22 November 2024
⏱️ 39 minutes
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Summary
Friendships are hard. Add in distance and they can get even harder at times. But long distance friendships seem like a fact of life in our 20s as people scatter for school, work, travel, and just because they want to. Whilst it's said that some 50% of these relationships fail, I want to give you the tools to help your long distance friendships succeed. In this episode we discuss:
- The psychological challenges of long distance friendships
- How friendship is influenced by proximity and convenience
- My 4 ingredient friendship formula
- The BEST practical tips for maintaining connection
- What to do when the friendship feels over
Hope you enjoy, and make sure you send to your long distance pal!
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| 0:00.0 | Hello everybody. Welcome back to the show. Welcome back to the podcast. New listeners, old listeners, |
| 0:06.7 | wherever you are in the world. It is so great to have you here back for another episode as we |
| 0:13.0 | break down the psychology of our 20s. I want to begin this episode with a question. How many |
| 0:19.6 | friendships do you have with people who don't |
| 0:22.9 | live in the same state, same city, even the same country as you? Quickly do the math. How many |
| 0:28.8 | long-distance friendships do you have? So the average number for people in their 20s is between |
| 0:34.9 | two to five people. Two to five of the people we consider friends |
| 0:39.8 | are people who we might not see for months on end, sometimes even years. They are the people that |
| 0:46.9 | we stay connected to via text messages and TikToks and rushed voice notes on the train, |
| 0:53.2 | FaceTime calls when we can. |
| 0:54.8 | And it can be really, really difficult to sustain those relationships. |
| 1:00.1 | Only about 50% of long-distant friendships are successful in the long term, which, you know what? |
| 1:07.4 | It's either very good odds or very terrifying odds depending on how we see it. |
| 1:12.1 | And despite that, we go into our long distance friendships with so much optimism and hope |
| 1:18.8 | because we really care about these people. |
| 1:20.6 | And, you know, what else are we meant to do? |
| 1:22.8 | If we said goodbye to every single friendship that was inconvenient |
| 1:26.3 | or every single friendship where |
| 1:28.3 | distance made it difficult, we would be pretty lonely people because distance, whether it's |
| 1:34.7 | physical or emotional, is kind of a fact of life. It's a fact of relationships. There are periods |
| 1:41.7 | of great closeness and then periods where the connection kind of wanes. |
| 1:47.3 | And our 20s are definitely the decade for learning that lesson. |
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