248. "Her spending scares me. Should we get married?"
Money For Couples with Ramit Sethi
Ramit Sethi
4.6 • 124 Ratings
🗓️ 17 February 2026
⏱️ 105 minutes
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| 0:00.0 | Does this sound like you? You want to retire in the next five years, but you're wondering if you have enough. |
| 0:06.6 | Do you have enough saved? What if something unexpected happens? Can you actually travel the way you want in your retirement? |
| 0:13.5 | If this is you, I want to help. You can apply to get coached for free on this podcast. Apply today at IWT.com slash apply. That's IWT.com |
| 0:24.8 | slash apply. You're going to move in together. You're going to get married. What are we doing here? |
| 0:29.0 | I guess the problem is I don't agree with how she spends money. And I don't agree with how she wants to |
| 0:34.2 | hoard money and not live life. That's extreme. I'm definitely on defense. It feels like micromanagement. Say we got married. Then I owe $379,000 in debt. My salary's not going to be able to take care of all that. We're going to be in a world of hurt. It scares me. You have zero in savings. True. How much of the basement cost? |
| 0:55.3 | Oh, it was 100 grand. |
| 0:56.2 | What the... |
| 0:56.9 | She doesn't see that there is a problem, so there's nothing to fix. |
| 1:00.3 | I need you to set the standard for yourself higher. |
| 1:02.6 | I'm not here to fix you. |
| 1:04.4 | Only you can fix your situation. |
| 1:07.5 | Are the two of you financially compatible? |
| 1:09.7 | I don't know. |
| 1:15.6 | Listen to this line from her application. We haven't been able to take the next step in our relationship because we don't see eye to eye on money. |
| 1:21.6 | It has been a roadblock that has almost led to a breakup. |
| 1:25.6 | Today I'm speaking with Cree and April. They're 46 and 48 years old. |
| 1:29.9 | They've been together for five years and they hope to move in together in the next few months. |
| 1:34.5 | But just like Cree mentioned in her application, the difference in how they view money has led |
| 1:39.9 | to hesitation on what they should do next. Cree is debt averse and she's been quietly methodically |
| 1:46.4 | building her wealth. April is earning more than twice what Cree earns, but she's in debt. She's got |
| 1:52.7 | zero savings and she fights over how she manages her money. They're talking to me in part today |
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