#248: Getting Out of the Negative in Relationships

Black Girls Heal

Shena Lashey

Self-improvement, Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 1.7K Ratings

🗓️ 10 June 2024

⏱️ 59 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, I discuss the importance of moving from negative relationship patterns to positive, healed, and love-filled connections. I also talk about the common pitfalls of remaining in negative relational spaces, the impacts of childhood emotional neglect, and the signs of low self-worth.

You’ll get to know what it means to reach a baseline in emotional health and relationships and, ultimately, how to grow towards a healed and loved woman status. Listen to get actionable advice on stepping away from unhealthy relationships, identifying roadblocks, and embracing one's personal needs.

In this episode, we cover…

06:45 Why you operate in a deficit in relationships
12:19 How childhood emotional neglect affects you and your relationships
16:54 What it looks like to be in a relationship with a dominant and passive partner
18:44 The risk that happens when you still don't get to the baseline of relationships
22:12 Why you still struggle with low self-worth (even if you don't think that you are)
25:50 Why you need to make yourself available for happiness
31:13 The healed and loved woman standard for relationships
32:40 What it looks like to be in the negative baseline in relationships
33:44 What the baseline standard is for relationships
40:06 Why you're encouraged to do healing work in a community
41:09 Shena's personal story of healing in a community
41:57 Why you need to share your story
42:48 No contact as a healing agent

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Transcript

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0:00.0	My job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by Hooker Crow to get more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there just to bring it out.
0:21.0	This is what compels me to compel them and I will do it by whatever
0:26.4	means necessary.
0:29.7	Welcome to the Black Girls Hill podcast, where we talk about healing our intimacy disorders,
0:34.3	unresolved trauma, and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves, and then
0:38.6	others. Every episode we will talk about advice you can apply today to break unhealthy patterns
0:44.3	and grow in your self-worth. I'm She Nelachee love addition coach and trauma
0:48.9	specialist. Let's begin.
0:58.0	Hello, hello and welcome to the latest episode of Black Girls Heel. I am so happy to be with you today.
1:01.0	Today we are talking about getting out of the negative in relationships and getting into the positive.
1:06.8	I've been talking about this a lot lately.
1:09.4	I've talked about this recently on a live on Instagram and YouTube and I might have actually talked
1:14.4	about this on a podcast episode this year but there is an epidemic of so many of us
1:20.7	starting out in the red in a relationship and not even realizing that we are so
1:25.3	that when people start to give us a little bit more we think that there's progress
1:28.6	that's happening but actually we're still stuck in the same issues where we're not actually making the movement
1:34.4	that we think we are. So in today's episode I'm going to talk more about what that looks like,
1:38.5	the example that I've been using when I talk about this recently and then also I'm going to give you three examples of what it looks like when your
1:45.2	relationships are in the negative when you are just existing so the bare minimum that we actually talk about a lot and then
1:52.1	also what it looks like to be a
1:54.0	healed and loved woman. So y'all know if you've been a listener for a while the
1:57.9	framework that I use to help women just excel to get past love addiction. We're going from being love addicted to love balance,
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