245. Stressed Out, Touched Out
Female by Design
Francie Winslow
4.9 • 686 Ratings
🗓️ 1 December 2025
⏱️ 25 minutes
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Summary
When life feels overwhelming, sex is usually the last thing on our minds.
Between overstimulation, nonstop to-do lists, and caring for everyone else, many of us feel touched out—like our bodies have nothing left to give. But what if instead of avoiding touch, we could reimagine it as a source of nourishment, not depletion?
"I used to think I needed to escape my body to rest. Now I know, nourishing touch can bring me back home to myself."
In this episode, Francie unpacks a tender and practical reframe of what it means to reconnect with your body (and your spouse) in the middle of real-life exhaustion. Through story, prayer, and science-backed insight, she shares why touch, when rightly timed and received, can restore your nervous system, renew your energy, and deepen intimacy in the messiest seasons.
You'll hear:
– Why women often feel "touched out" and how to name it with compassion
– A simple nervous system check-in to tune into what your body really needs
– The four kinds of touch (and how to ask for them without shame)
– How sensual connection can actually lower cortisol and raise oxytocin
– Why pleasure isn't a performance—it's a reset
This isn't about adding sex to your to-do list. It's about receiving the kind of intimacy that truly replenishes you.
Resources Mentioned:
– Women's Anatomy of Arousal by Sheri Winston (non-Christian lens, rich body insight)
– Francie's masterclass: Confidence with Sexy Talk
– Mentorship: Join The Circle
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Female by Design podcast, an honest space for female flourishing. |
| 0:09.6 | I'm Francie Winslow. |
| 0:11.7 | Together we'll explore sexuality and spirituality by God's design, healing our relationship |
| 0:18.7 | with pleasure, our bodies, and our identity as beloved image bearers. |
| 0:24.7 | So let's take a deep breath and step into God's invitation to live fully alive as women, mind, body, and spirit. |
| 0:35.7 | I'm so glad you're here. |
| 0:37.3 | Hey, everybody, it's Francie. Welcome back to the female |
| 0:40.5 | by design podcast. I'm so glad you are here joining me today. The hope and the goal for today's |
| 0:47.3 | conversation is indeed that to start a conversation. That is what I hope a lot of these podcasts are for |
| 0:53.3 | you is space to reframe things |
| 0:55.7 | the way you've been thinking about your body, your femininity, your sexuality, pleasure, |
| 1:01.1 | God's design in it all. And to open up spaces for us to have honesty with God, with our own selves, |
| 1:07.9 | with our stories, and with other people in our journey, whether that's |
| 1:10.9 | our spouse or our friends or our sisters, our small group. I just long to see women free |
| 1:18.4 | with their voices capable of and invited to walk in more healing and in more freedom and more |
| 1:26.1 | confidence to tap into the design of God. So today we're |
| 1:29.3 | going to talk about a real life dynamic that I have 100% experienced and I would bet you as well. |
| 1:35.6 | It's the idea of being stressed out and touched out to the point where you don't know how to |
| 1:41.3 | interact with your body around your family, especially around your |
| 1:44.6 | husband, because everything just feels like too much. I don't know if you have felt that way, |
| 1:48.3 | but I have felt that way, overstimulated, overwhelmed, overcooked on every level. And in that |
| 1:54.0 | scenario, my logical mind says, oh, sex is the last thing I need. But I want to have a reframe here. |
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