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I'm your host Trevor Windsor, and you're listening to Episode 244 of the Pure Desire Podcast.

Here joining me as always, my co-host, Nick Stumbo.

My pleasure.

Okay. I'm trying to make the connection as to why you would say that. I don't know.

Is that like a, I don't know, are you doing like an as you wish, but I don't mind.

Well, Trevor, there is just one mile from my house a new fast food establishment that has graced the presence

of Gresham, Oregon that has my whole family singing their praises.

And that is, as you know, chick filet.

Chick-fil-A.

And the most common greeting when you are finished ordering they say to you my pleasure

my pleasure that's right i often wonder like is it though like you're standing you're standing in the

rain with an iPad taking my order it's part of their training it's so good though okay so today

we had Heather Colb back on the podcast and we have talked about this a lot in a lot of different episodes, but I've never had just a direct episode on it.

And we talked about how the struggling spouse can help the betrayed spouse heal from their sexual betrayal.

Yeah, we want to figure out how to serve them. And, you know, at Chick-fil-A,

when you're being served, they say it's my pleasure. And sometimes in these relationships,

um, that struggling spouse can be doing what they think they need to do just to, to say the right

words and to serve. And then my, my spouse is going to see how much better I am. And yet I think in this conversation, we really hit on a lot that it's a deeper work.

It's a slower work.

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