Welcome to the happiness podcast. I'm Dr. Robert Puff. After we've lived long enough, and that's probably true for everyone listening to this

podcast right now, something's going to happen.

We're either going to hurt people or they're going to hurt us. And when that happens, we have a choice.

We have a choice to hang on to that hurt, or we have a choice to let it go.

And if we hang on to it, that is a path to unhappiness.

And though this statement seems so clear and so easy to do. Most people struggle with this. We have a

tendency to hang on to resentments and sometimes even take them to our graves.

It's a sad life. and sometimes even take them to our graves.

It's a sad life.

It's an unhappy life that we don't have to live.

But what I found with working with so many people over the years

is that a lot of people struggle with this one.

We have a tendency when someone's hurt us or we've hurt others to really, really hang on to

these things. And this sad path of hanging on to

resentment is also the path to unhappiness. We have to let things go when we hurt others or they hurt us.

It's not an easy thing to do, but it's a necessary thing to do if we truly want to find peace in our hearts and in our minds throughout the day and throughout our lives.

Because resentments, hates, angers that we hang on to, though of course it may hurt the other person, it will most definitely

hurt our hearts.

I think where a lot of people get confused in regards to the resentments is that if we forgive another person or if we let it go, that gives

them permission to do it again, or we're condoning their behavior. It's really neither of these.

It's just a sense of, okay, I know this person hurt me or I may have heard another person.

Hanging on to this is not going to do me any good. I need to work towards letting it go and

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