243: Susan David - Emotional Agility • The Tyranny Of Positivity • Understanding Guilt & Shame
The Jesse Chappus Show
Jesse Chappus
4.6 • 1.6K Ratings
🗓️ 26 June 2018
⏱️ 66 minutes
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Summary
Susan David, Ph.D. (IG: @susandavid_phd), is an award-winning Psychologist on the faculty of Harvard Medical School; co-founder and co-director of the Institute of Coaching at McLean Hospital; and CEO of Evidence Based Psychology, a boutique business consultancy. She is the author of the new #1 Wall Street Journal best-selling book Emotional Agility.
In this episode, we discuss:
- Growing up in Apartheid South Africa
- Being the master of being ok
- Writing/journaling like nobody's reading it
- Are you bottling emotions?
- Stop brooding
- Showing up to our emotions
- Difficult emotions serve a purpose
- Understanding the difference between guilt & shame
- Anger often comes about when something important to you is being blocked
- Acceptance is the prerequisite of change
- Creating space between the thinker and the thought
- Stop identifying your whole self with an emotion
- Emotion granularity
- Our stories don't always serve us
- Human beings are drawn to stories, familiarity, & coherence
- Values are qualities of action
- The most fundamental protector of our health and wellbeing
- Social contagion and how to protect yourself from it
- The problem with "have to" goals
- The tyranny of positivity
- Depression is the single leading cause of disability, globally
- People with goals around happiness become less happy and less resilient over time
- There's a time to grit and a time to quit
- Raising emotionally agile children
- 4 key ideas of emotional agility
- All emotions are transient
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| 0:00.0 | Our children one day will get their hearts broken or one day themselves will have a diagnosis that brings them to their knees. |
| 0:07.6 | How do we enable our children to thrive in this world. Hello and welcome to the Ultimate Health Podcast episode 243. |
| 0:18.0 | Jesse Chapp is here with Marnie Wasserman and we are here on a weekly basis to take your health to the next level. |
| 0:24.0 | This week our featured guest is Susan David. |
| 0:26.0 | She's a PhD, award-winning psychologist on the faculty of Harvard Medical School. |
| 0:31.0 | She's the co-founder and co-director of the Institute of Coaching at McLean Hospital and |
| 0:35.3 | CEO of Evidence-based Psychology, a boutique business consultancy. She's the author of the |
| 0:40.5 | number one Wall Street Journal best-selling book, Emotional Agility, and we are just digging deep into this book on today's show. |
| 0:47.0 | Emotions are such a big part of our human experience, and we all deal with a wide array of emotions, sometimes we actually don't know how to deal with them or how to manage them. |
| 0:56.5 | And Susan has so many tips and strategies on how to become more emotionally agile. |
| 1:01.0 | So here's what we get into today. We talk about difficult emotions serve a purpose, |
| 1:04.7 | understanding the difference between guilt and shame, acceptance is the prerequisite to |
| 1:09.5 | change, how to create space between the thinker and a thought and raising emotional agile |
| 1:15.0 | children. This is an excellent conversation so excited if you guys to hear this. Here we go |
| 1:19.7 | with Susan. Hello Susan, welcome to the podcast. |
| 1:23.0 | How are things today? |
| 1:24.0 | Excellent, thank you so much for inviting me. |
| 1:27.0 | We're so honored to have you on the show and we have a lot we got to get into because your |
| 1:31.6 | book Emotional Agility is so incredible and |
| 1:34.8 | congrats on this book I know it's been out a while but it's fabulous. Thank you so |
| 1:39.2 | much it's been a fabulous journey and a place that I really want to start is you growing up in Africa, |
| 1:46.2 | telling us the story of what that was like. Absolutely, so I grew up in a party in South Africa. I was a white South African, essentially growing up in a community in which denial and hatred were in effect legislated. So from a very early age I became interested in questions about what does it take to thrive, how do we deal with the circumstances around us. And then when I was around 15 years old, |
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