Rachel Paz is a Shameless Mom to her 9-year-old sonm as well as a relationship-readiness coach for independent women who feel like finding companionship and intimacy is impossible without settling. Rachel didn’t magically know exactly what she wanted in a relationship and how to get it - but a divorce and entering the dating world again were a wake-up call to address the fear of intimacy she had experienced her whole life. To get at the root of the issue, she broke down everything she did in relationships to figure out the reason why behind it. Along the way, Rachel realized that everything she did in relationships that had her feeling like she was settling, were actually behaviors that inherently avoided intimacy. Through identifying the patterns of these self-sabotaging behaviors and practicing alternative ways of doing things, she developed a sense of loyalty to herself that had never been there before, leading her to have deeper and more fulfilling relationships than she ever thought possible. Now Rachel leads women on this journey of examining who they are and who they want to be in their relationships, clearing out what’s in the way, and attracting partners that fit. She loves to see women unravel the intricacies of what they want, break patterns, and learn the skills to feel ready to love again without sacrificing themselves in the process. Rachel gets extremely open, honest, and vulnerable in sharing her story and her path to a much better life through the demise of her marriage and finding herself through Orgasmic Meditation. Rachel’s dad was a priest before having a family. Rachel had always lead repressed, albeit comfortable and controlled, life. But she was not happy or fulfilled. She shares her defining moments here.  If this conversation makes you uncomfortable, that miiiight mean you need to stick around and hear the message. This is a powerful conversation that might really hit home in ways you did not think possible. Please note: while Rachel shares in the episode how Orgasmic Meditation (OM) changed her life, her sharing that experience is not intended to be an endorsement of the organization that teaches OM courses. Her coaching practice is based on principles she learned through practicing OM, and doesn't include OM itself, unless specifically requested. Listen in to hear Rachel share: Why (and how) she started practicing Orgasmic Meditation How Orgasmic Meditation helped her reprioritize her whole life and discover her true preferences and passions for the first time The common traits and struggles of an independent (often proudly Shameless woman) and how to rectify these Why identifying as an “independent woman” might actually be harming you more than helping you The 8 steps to take responsibility for the relationships in your life One step you can take today to start getting more of what you truly want in your life Links Mentioned: Connect with Rachel: Rachel Paz Rachel on Facebook Thank you to our sponsors: Wing Alpha: Get $25 off your first cell phone bill when you go to Wing Alpha , click Join Wing and enter the code SHAMELESS. Canvas People: To get a FREE 11x14 canvas print (just pay shipping) of any of your photos, text SHAMELESS to 484848. Canidae: We talk about families, and your pet is an important part of your family and they deserve the best. Go to Canidae to try CANIDAE for free by requesting a free sample and get other special offers! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices