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George, sometimes people feel criticized by direct sex requests.

And we got to talk about this to help them.

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No one likes criticism, especially around sex.

Especially in bed.

So I had two clients this week and they said something and they were not

related to each other but one was a woman one was a man and they gave me sort of

of like the perfect halves of this

conversation she talked about her experience giving feedback in bed and he

talked about his experience receiving feedback about the bedroom and they were

completely unrelated but both of them kind of matched and I thought this

was it was really helpful to hear it in the same week for me and I asked them specifically of course without their names if I could talk about it on the podcast because I thought the insight that they gave was really important.

Yeah, what a great topic. So much what we're trying to do is to encourage people to give feedback to communicate more that that is for play. There's so much intimacy in that. But if you see that feedback as a stop sign, we're trying to see it's like a detour sign, right? It's trying to get you going a little bit different direction. But so many people, if your nervous system reads it as that stop sign, all of a sudden the brakes come on and you

know the whole experience gets ruined. Exactly. I'll start with the she's a

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