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Honeydew Me

239. The Real Skills You Need For A Healthy Relationship

Honeydew Me

Cassandra Anderson

Self-improvement, Education, Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.8533 Ratings

🗓️ 5 November 2025

⏱️ 51 minutes

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Summary

Good relationships don’t just happen. They’re built on self-awareness, communication, and the willingness to grow. In this episode, Jordanne Sculler, LMHC, shares how to build your own relationship toolkit and start showing up with more curiosity, accountability, and intention, both with yourself and the people around you. We Cover: How to build your own relationship toolkit. The emotional skills and self-awareness you actually need to make relationships work. Why self-awareness is the foundation of connection. Understanding your triggers, patterns, and needs so you can show up more intentionally. The difference between reacting and responding. How to slow down, get grounded, and communicate instead of spiraling. How to break out of old relationship patterns. What to look for when you keep finding yourself in the same dynamics. The link between discomfort and growth. Why learning to sit in discomfort is essential for building emotional intimacy. How to create emotional safety in your relationships. Tools for being honest without being defensive and how to invite that from others. What accountability actually looks like. Why it’s not about blame, but about understanding and repair. The importance of self-connection. How your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have. Connect with Jordanne: ⁠Website⁠  ⁠Instagram⁠  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Cass & Em? Apply HERE! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0

Hello, you're a gem shine when the light grows dim.

0:04.3

See one, two, three, four, three, two, one.

0:08.2

Because no one can do it like who we do it, like who we do it, like we do it, like we do it, like we do it.

0:15.6

Hello, and welcome to Honeydemy Podcast. I'm Emma. And I'm Cass, and that's not her real voice. So stick around to hear the real thing. But this is our podcast where we talk about sex, relationships, mental health, all the things that tend to feel a little sticky, a little more difficult than we think they quote unquote should. But the truth is, sometimes things

0:39.0

are just hard. Sometimes they're messy. We're human and that's okay. And we're all in it together,

0:42.9

not to quote high school musical. Excuse me. There's a real voice. But you're not alone. We're

0:51.6

all going through the same weird messy shit, especially when it

0:54.8

comes to sex. My God. My God. It really is. It's such like you're always evolving. You're always,

1:03.0

like we just explored in our last episode about like sexual journeys. Cass and I had like 17 different

1:09.3

pivots within that episode alone like everything is just always

1:13.3

changing for your body for your mind for your heart and soul and so it really just helps to have

1:19.5

a tool that's right there with you that's like yeah we change and that's great and sometimes

1:24.4

it's hard but here are some people to help you through it.

1:29.0

Well, yeah, we've just, and I feel like I keep saying it, but I don't care because it's so

1:32.9

important community. Like we have to do these things in a community because let's say you're

1:38.0

trying to change how you feel about sex. You're trying to adjust some of the shame that you've

1:42.2

grown up with, whether it's religion, your parents, whatever. If you do that by yourself in a silo, like, it's not going to stick because

1:50.3

once you go back out into the world, you're still going to be hit with all of those same messages.

1:54.7

So that's why this community is so important to us, because we can all hold each other in a way

1:59.8

that's like, no, that's normal. You're okay. That's not weird. And then it actually sticks. And I think we were kind of resistant to that in the beginning. Like, oh, we just keep it right here between us and that's fine. But the more we've brought it into like our actual life, the better it's been, the happier we've been, the better sex we've had, the better relationships we've had. Yeah, exactly. That was such a beautiful way to put it, that I could regurgitate exactly what you said to sound just as smart, but I won't. I won't waste the airspace. I won't. And honestly, that makes you smarter, right? Mm-hmm. Let me do the work.

2:35.0

Let me do the work.

2:36.3

Yes, exactly.

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