239. Dating while Overcoming Pornography with Jessica
Overcome Pornography for Good
Sara Brewer
4.9 • 730 Ratings
🗓️ 18 August 2025
⏱️ 27 minutes
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Summary
Dating while working through pornography struggles can feel heavy and complicated. From fear of judgment to uncertainty about disclosure, it’s easy to get stuck wondering if you should even be dating at all.
In this episode, Coach Jessica Farmer talks about navigating dating while overcoming pornography use. She shares guidance on managing vulnerability, handling intense emotions, assessing your readiness for dating, and why putting life on hold might actually hold you back. Jessica reframes difficult conversations—not as confessions, but as opportunities for collaboration and building authentic connection.
Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/dating-overcoming-pornography-jessica
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| 0:00.0 | You are listening to the Overcome Pornography for Good podcast, episode 239. |
| 0:06.6 | Welcome to the Overcome Pornography for Good podcast where we take a research-based, trauma-informed, and results-focused approach to quitting porn. |
| 0:17.4 | This approach has been revolutionary and changed thousands and thousands of lives. I'm your |
| 0:23.3 | host, Sarah Brewer. Hey, everyone. Welcome to the Overcoming Pornography for Good podcast. I am Jessica |
| 0:33.1 | Farmer. I am a coach at the Center for Overcoming Pornography, and I am so excited to talk to you guys |
| 0:40.9 | today. Today, we're going to talk about, if you know me from the program, you know, relationships are my jam. |
| 0:47.0 | I love talking about relationships. And so today we're going to talk specifically about dating |
| 0:52.7 | and how to navigate kind of the unique circumstance of dating while also |
| 1:00.7 | trying to overcome pornography use. The idea for this podcast really came from my one-on-one |
| 1:06.4 | clients in the program. So if you're listening to this and you are one of my current or former clients |
| 1:13.0 | and we have ever talked about dating, like this one is for you guys and everyone else, obviously. |
| 1:19.1 | But it's kind of my love letter to some of my clients because this is, it's such a difficult |
| 1:27.3 | dynamic and full of all sorts of feelings |
| 1:31.0 | of uncertainty and fear and vulnerability and lots and, oh, lots of really hard feelings. |
| 1:38.9 | And so we're going to hopefully get some clarity on how to approach dating when you're also |
| 1:46.7 | working through pornography struggles. So what we're going to talk about, I really want to |
| 1:53.1 | give you some good, solid tips on how and when to talk about your history with pornography, |
| 2:00.7 | setting boundaries around dating and how to talk about your history with pornography, setting boundaries around dating, and how to |
| 2:04.0 | manage shame and other difficult emotions that might come up during that whole process. |
| 2:10.1 | So if you've ever wondered if it's the right time to tell someone, when is the right time to tell |
| 2:15.8 | someone that you're dating about your |
| 2:17.6 | struggles with pornography or if it's even necessary or should I even be dating this episode is |
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