23 - Sasha & Stella Answer Your Questions

Gender: A Wider Lens

Sasha Ayad and Stella O'Malley

Health & Fitness, Society & Culture, Mental Health

4.6 • 961 Ratings

🗓️ 14 May 2021

⏱️ 71 minutes

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Summary

In today’s episode, we begin to answer some of the many questions sent to us by listeners.

Can we be born in the wrong body? Do parental role models influence children to reject or seek transition? What is the impact of a trans partner on a teenagers’ sexuality? How do siblings of trans people experience these changes in the family?

Listen in to see if your question was answered and how Sasha and Stella plan to explore these topics in future episodes.

Links:

TED Talks — “Own Your Face” Happiness isn’t found in your appearance:

Youtube.com/watch?v=QbxinUJcLGg&feature=emb_logo

“My Philosophy for a Happy Life”:

Youtube.com/watch?v=36m1o-tM05g&t=1s

My Left Foot Film: Imdb.com/title/tt0097937/

The Crying Game: Imdb.com/title/tt0104036/

Dr. Lisa Diamond: Youtube.com/watch?v=m2rTHDOuUBw&t=5s

Extended Notes

Thank you so much for sending your questions! Let’s talk!
Born in the wrong body? How is that different from those with disabilities?
What does it mean to be in the “wrong body”? Stella and Sasha discuss.
You cannot let yourself be defined by your disability or your abnormal face.
Stella asks some interesting questions about people who undergo drastic cosmetic surgery.
Is it the new normal to just drastically change your appearance?
Sasha shares interesting cosmetic surgery trends that we’re now seeing in our society.
How do you really know you’re born in the wrong body vs. just being unhappy with your body?
Next question! This listener’s teenage daughter is dating a girl that identifies as a boy. This mother has some questions on what this all means.
This listener is curious if her parenting style has had an impact on her daughter’s rebellious tendencies to reject her own gender identity.
It’s normal for a daughter to not be a carbon copy of the mother.
Don’t blame yourself for your daughter’s gender identity.
Parents often put their own needs on the backburner when they have a child.
Next question: How do you talk to siblings about their gender dysphoria?
Birth order is important. Was the child who is transitioning older or younger? This can affect siblings differently.
Parents are trying so hard to give their resources to their trans child, but siblings are sitting on the sidelines keeping their questions to themselves because they see how much conflict this is giving everyone.
Listeners share some of their favorite episodes, and even ones they’ve shared with their children.
Sasha and Stella share some upcoming episodes that they have in the works right now!

This podcast is partially sponsored by ReIME, Rethink Identity Medicine Ethics:

Rethinkime.org

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Transcript

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0:00.0	You're listening to gender, a wider lens.
0:04.0	I'm Stella O'Malley, a psychotherapist in Ireland.
0:06.5	And I'm Sasha Ayad, an adolescent therapist in the United States.
0:10.6	Since 2016, my practice has been exclusively dedicated to gender questioning teens
0:16.1	and families impacted by gender dysphoria. I also work with gender questioning
0:20.7	teenagers and I facilitated support meetings for families and
0:24.2	individuals who have been impacted by gender issues. We're curious about the
0:28.1	concept of gender and how it's unfolding in the wider culture. Join us as we look at gender through a wider lens.
0:35.0	Hi, Setta.
0:38.0	Hi Stella, how's it going?
0:41.0	Very well.
0:42.0	Very well. I don't think it's as good in Ireland as it is in America because I think
0:46.8	you're easing up in your lockdown while we're still in prison. Oh, that's so sad. I spent most of the day outdoors today, but you look like you've been inside.
0:58.0	Yeah, for listeners, we can see each other and like you're getting browner by the day and I'm just the pasty Irish girl besides you.
1:09.0	So today, interesting day today, right?
1:15.0	It's an unusual episode today and it's one that's been coming a long time.
1:19.6	Because we've, since the beginning, we've been wondering how is a government across what our
1:23.8	listeners thinking you know what are we hitting it right are we getting the right
1:29.2	questions are we getting the right kind of explorations?
1:32.8	And so, personally, have your idea, Sasha,
1:35.9	you said, let's do a shout out if you would come back with.
1:39.0	And oh my God, it was a deluge it was so many and so many frankly brilliant and every
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