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Dating Intentionally

229. The 4 Things You Should Know by the 4th Date w/ Amy Nobile Messing

Dating Intentionally

Talia Koren

Relationships, Education, Self-improvement, Society & Culture

4.7596 Ratings

🗓️ 16 January 2026

⏱️ 61 minutes

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Summary

I'm chatting with Amy Nobile Messing, a holistic dating coach who "turbo dated" her way through NYC after leaving a 20-year marriage in her 40. She's now remarried and helping clients of all ages find love with intention. We're discussing everything from how to bring up your divorce on a first date to her four pillars for filtering someone out by date four. Amy also shares the trick question she uses to figure out if someone's actually ready for a relationship. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about navigating post-divorce dating when external markers like marriage and kids are off the table.


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1:37.3

Welcome back to dating intentionally. I'm Talia. I'm sharing no-nonsense advice for navigating dating and relationships with confidence and ease. Whether you've been dating for a while or you're just starting out, I believe dating can be fun.

1:45.6

And if you caught Tuesday's episodes on signs they're ready for a relationship, consider this

1:50.1

one the perfect part two.

1:52.3

Today's guest is Amy Nobly Messing, a dating coach and founder of Love Amy and the host of

1:58.0

The It Only Takes One podcast. She also has an upcoming book called Dating for the One

2:03.7

coming out next year. In this episode, you're going to hear Amy's framework for knowing who is

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