227. The Co-Regulating One

Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast

Ali Jackson

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.2 • 659 Ratings

🗓️ 23 June 2025

⏱️ 65 minutes

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Summary

We’re talking about co-regulating this week: where two people help each other navigate their emotions. It’s a solo episode with Ali featuring a deep dive into her week away with Skyline that ended with a cancelation of the music festival they were at and a lot of stress surrounding the logistics. She shares a few stressful situations from the weekend, strategies that work for them when navigating conflicting opinions or tough situations, and a moment where she struggled to self-regulate herself. Plus, a listener sent in a question about how anxious attachment might tie into craving structure in relationships, and it’s super relevant to this discussion.

This week’s Media Mention is an article from Psychology Today titled, “The Secret to Resolving Relationship Conflict: Co-Regulating.” It goes into an example from a couples therapist about co-regulating and shifting perspective to prioritizing each other’s needs vs just your own.

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0:00.0	That just really, especially because we had had this conversation about co-regulating in answering
0:06.5	listeners question on the Patreon, it just really got me thinking like, wow, like, that's really
0:10.5	what we're doing right now.
0:11.9	And we're able to do it so much better because we have this really open dialogue about
0:18.2	what each of our needs are.
0:31.2	Music open dialogue about what each of our needs are. Hello and welcome to their episode of Finding Mr. Hyde the podcast.
0:33.9	I am your host, Allie Jackson, and I am bringing you my positive and practical dating and
0:37.8	relationship advice born out of my own personal experience. I talk a lot about my own personal
0:42.5	experience here on the pod. And today, we are really going to get into not only my updates
0:49.6	from the last week and my, if you follow my Instagram stories or perhaps you saw the news about it,
0:56.3	failed trip to Bonneroo, the music festival, but also how that ties into conflict resolution
1:04.2	and relationships are like, not really conflict resolution, but more so like emotional
1:08.5	regulation, co-regulation. We have a media mention along those lines as well.
1:15.2	And I'm excited to just get into all of it. And the other thing I wanted to do is an amazing
1:20.3	shout out to our Patreon community. It is always a good week when I have a monthly Patreon live.
1:24.8	That's a new benefit that we've added to the Patreon in the last four months is that we've
1:30.2	been doing Patreon lives once a month.
1:32.7	They've been so much fun.
1:34.6	I've just been really loving being able to connect in real time with the patrons,
1:39.0	especially because I just haven't been doing really TikTok lives anymore.
1:42.1	It's just not something that has been working for me.
1:45.9	The Patreon lives really have.
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