223. How to Stop Feeling Desperate When Dating (throwback)
Dating Intentionally
Talia Koren
4.7 • 595 Ratings
🗓️ 26 December 2025
⏱️ 32 minutes
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Summary
Being single is treated like something to escape, like something's wrong with you. But what if we stopped thinking of it that way? In this episode, I'm sharing the exact exercise I did after leaving my 6-year relationship that completely changed how I approached dating. I'm sharing the reflection questions I used to build my own security while actively dating, so you can do the same. This episode will help you re-frame urgency and desperation around just finding your person already.
REFLECTION QUESTIONS:
- If I don't like it here, where should I live?
- How do I want to spend my time? What do I want my lifestyle to be?
- How will I make my life meaningful without a romantic relationship?
- What kind of friend and daughter do I want to be?
- How will I show up for the people in my life?
- How do I want to spend my money and what are my financial goals as a single person?
- If I don't meet anyone in the next few years, will I choose to have kids on my own?
- If I don't get married, what does the best version of my life look like?
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| 0:00.0 | You know what takes so much longer than you want it to? Waiting for matches to respond on dating |
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| 1:38.0 | Being single is treated like something to escape. Like it's the worst thing you can be, |
| 1:43.0 | especially as a woman. Being single sometimes feels like you're behind, you're lacking something, like something is wrong with you or you're doing something wrong in your dating approach. But what if we didn't think of it that way? What if we embrace being single is something that's just as good and sometimes better than being in a relationship? What if we didn't move through life holding being in a relationship on a pedestal? In this episode, we're talking about being single, and I'm going to share some of the most important things you can do in your single life to improve your mindset and your dating approach. So welcome back to dating intentionally. I'm Talia. I'm a dating coach, and I'm sharing no-nonsense advice for navigating modern dating with confidence and ease, whether you've been on dozens of dates or you're just getting started. I believe dating can be fun, even when you don't have a relationship to show for it. |
| 2:21.7 | If you're listening to this when it comes out, I hope you've had a lovely holiday week if you |
| 2:25.9 | celebrate Christmas. I just got back from Cambodia and I'm playing catch up while getting |
| 2:30.1 | ready to record so many new episodes in 26. I can't wait. So this episode originally aired in |
| 2:36.3 | August 24 right before I got married. And I wanted to share it again because I mentioned it in so |
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