Hey, my friends, it's Jen. I'm recording this, a little addendum to this episode on the day before it airs. At the time I recorded this episode, I didn't know that the tragic death of George Floyd would occur. I didn't know that we would be having massive protests all around the world, protests, which, by the way, I wholeheartedly support.

So I want to just add this addendum to let you know where I stand on these issues, to let you know that I care, to let you know that I support the peaceful protests that are happening and to some extent,

any version of the protests that are happening. I'm going to explain why that is in a minute.

So this week, I have been doing my part to listen and to learn and to open my eyes to the experience of people of color in our country right now.

Unfortunately, in the past, I tended to try not to see color, to treat everyone the same.

And I've learned that that isn't the way to handle things.

I would never walk up to someone in a wheelchair and say, hey, you have legs.

Why don't you be in this three-legged race with us?

That's treating them equally, but not equitably.

And so now I'm opening my eyes and recognizing people of color have a completely different experience in our country and around the world.

I was surprised to learn this week that one of my good friends, who is black, is pulled over five or six times a year.

And when she's pulled over, the policeman invariably asked her, hey, what are you doing in this

neighborhood? Where are you headed? She happens to live in a predominantly white suburb of Atlanta.

And I was shocked to hear this. Clearly, people of color do not have the same experience and we need

to listen and learn and care.

When my two boys went to Anasazi to the Wilderness Therapy Program a couple of years ago,

we learned about something called the Pyramid of Influence. A lot of parents, and really,

this applies to society as well, a lot of police, a lot of leaders,

we tend to think it's our job to teach and talk and correct.

Well, the Anasazi Pyramid of Influence teaches that imagine a pyramid with correction at the very top what's below that we're

going to spend way more time and all the things below that the bottom beautifully is to have our

hearts at peace so let's say you have an unruly teenager or any situation where you don't understand someone's behavior.

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