221. Making Decisions in the First Year, or When Big Decisions Have Deadlines
The Widowed Mom Podcast
Krista St-Germain
4.9 • 695 Ratings
🗓️ 21 August 2023
⏱️ 19 minutes
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Summary
One piece of advice that is often offered to widows is, “Don’t make big decisions in the first year.”
While I recognize that making decisions in grief is a nuanced issue, I’m not a fan of the notion that we can’t trust ourselves to do big things in grief. I address how to make decisions in the first year, or when big decisions have deadlines.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Widowed Mom Podcast, episode 221, making decisions in the first year, or when big decisions have deadlines. |
| 0:11.3 | Welcome to the Widowed Mom podcast, the only podcast that offers a proven process to help you work through your grief, to grow, evolve, and create a future you can |
| 0:23.3 | truly look forward to. Here's your host, Master Certified Life Coach, Grief Expert, Widow, |
| 0:29.9 | and Mom, Krista St. Germain. |
| 0:33.8 | Hey there, welcome to another episode of the podcast. So last week, I shared some advice from other |
| 0:41.0 | widows. And this week, I want to share my spin on some advice from other widows. Because one of the |
| 0:48.2 | things that I heard over and over and over from other widows was don't make decisions in the first year. Don't make |
| 0:55.8 | big decisions in the first year. I hate that advice. I hate it because says who, first of all, |
| 1:06.3 | and also sometimes we have really big decisions that we need to make in the first year. |
| 1:12.4 | And when you keep hearing, don't make big decisions in the first year and you have a big |
| 1:17.0 | decision that has a deadline or a decision that you really want to make that's important to you, |
| 1:22.0 | it kind of undermines your confidence. |
| 1:24.2 | You start to think there's something wrong with you and like you're incapable of making |
| 1:28.1 | a big decision in the first year. So I'm not a fan of that advice. Now, I get that a lot of widows say that |
| 1:34.9 | because they did things in the first year that they later wish they hadn't done. They later look back |
| 1:40.6 | and regret. I also understand that grief wreaks havoc on our body, on our hormones, |
| 1:46.6 | on everything, and that sometimes we don't really feel like ourselves in the first year. |
| 1:51.9 | So I'm not saying this is a black and white issue. I recognize that it is nuanced, but I really |
| 1:59.3 | want to support those of you who want to make a |
| 2:02.4 | decision or who have a decision in front of you, especially if it has a deadline. |
| 2:08.5 | And you're also being told simultaneously not to make big decisions in the first year. |
| 2:14.8 | But what if you have one? |
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