From San Diego, California, this is the One Extraordinary Marriage Show,

where being busy is overdone. Romancing is fun and scheduling sex has taken the

guesswork out of wondering when you're going to get some. I'm Tony Deloreenzo, your co-host, along with my beautiful

wife Elisa. From coast to coast and around the world, thank you for joining us. It's time to talk sex,

love, and commitment.

Give us a call at 858, 876, 563, that's 858, 876, 863,

858, 876,5663.

In today's show, we are talking about being actively engaged in your marriage, not just

falling back on the numbers as a sign that your marriage is healthy.

So many people do this and as we start today I want to start with this quote from President

Abraham Lincoln. He said, in the end, it's not the years in your life that count.

It's the life in your years. And really taking that a step further, it doesn't matter how long you've been together.

It's the quality of that time.

Right. And so what we're really going to talk about today is how we look at those years and we'll go oh I've been married five

years I've been married 10 15 30 years 40 years and we can look in awe.

You know, somebody who's just married and sees you've been married five years,

they can look in awe and go, wow, you've been married five years.

Or somebody like us who've, you know, we're going to be pushing 18 years can look at somebody and go wow they've been married 40 years

But really is it quality time for 40 years or are they just been dealing with each other for

40 years? That's what we're gonna get into and we start every show with a hug and

this actually came from one of my coaching clients.

She said I realize now as we go through this process with you

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