221-If Sex Is A Duty
Delight Your Marriage
Belah Rose
4.7 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 3 September 2019
⏱️ 21 minutes
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Summary
Does sex feel like a duty?
- When he asks to make love, I believe that he's actually doing a really brave thing. He could be afraid of rejection and is actually insecure about it.
- What if you have the opportunity to bring out your husband's generosity by being compassionate about his sexuality?
As a side: Dear husbands, If you want your wife to work with me, I encourage you to take the first step in transforming your marriage. By doing this, she'll be receptive to transforming herself as well.
Wives, I want you to know that if your opinion of sex is that it's a chore or a duty, it's probably hurting your spouse's feelings. AND sex has to start with having an open heart and a good perspective. Otherwise it doesn't feel like making love, it feels like you value it as much as washing the dishes.
What if you can go to a place of:
- Joy, fun and excitement
- To the point that you physically crave sex
I want you to get there. Listen in for encouragement and new perspectives and tools to make love rather than do your duty.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Delight Your Marriage podcast, the show where you hear from amazing and inspiring |
| 0:08.1 | wives sharing their struggles, triumphs, and advice for this journey called marriage. |
| 0:13.9 | Here's your host, Bella Rose. |
| 0:19.1 | Hi there, welcome, welcome. This is Bella Rose. Thank you for joining me. I want to speak to the |
| 0:26.2 | wives and really focus in on an issue that I hear over and over and over again when I speak |
| 0:33.7 | and work with husbands. One of the big things that they tell me about is that their wives |
| 0:40.0 | treat sex like a duty or chore. So essentially, if I could speak to their wives, and sometimes, actually, |
| 0:50.0 | it's really cool, I'll work with the husbands. And after working with the husbands, I kind of |
| 0:54.5 | catch up with the wives and say, how do you think it went? Like, what was your opinion of this, |
| 0:59.4 | you know, the season that I worked with the husband? And, um, and then I have the opportunity |
| 1:04.4 | then start working with the wife because it's such a great connection, um, afterwards. So it works |
| 1:10.4 | out really, really well. so let that be a lesson to |
| 1:13.3 | you husband if you want your wife to work with me i encourage you to take the first step of you changing |
| 1:18.5 | by working with me and then by god's grace she'll um decide that you know she can be receptive to |
| 1:25.6 | transforming herself as well but let me just tell you what i wish can be receptive to transforming herself as well. |
| 1:28.4 | But let me just tell you what I wish I could say to the wives that may not be at a spot |
| 1:35.2 | where they are receptive to, like I said, more one-on-one attention. |
| 1:40.7 | So let me say this. |
| 1:42.9 | This is kind of a, what do they call those, open letters to the wives |
| 1:48.4 | that feel like sex is a chore. I want you to know that your husband is a very sweet man. And you |
| 1:54.9 | might roll your eyes and be like, no, he's not. There's all sorts of men in this world, I'll tell you. |
| 2:02.7 | But the coolest thing is I get to be on the inside of the way they think. |
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