220-Plan Sex, Sexily
Delight Your Marriage
Belah Rose
4.7 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 27 August 2019
⏱️ 22 minutes
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Summary
How EXACTLY do other people even plan for sex? Planning for sex can look different for many people:
- You can plan for sex in other physical aspects
(If you're too full from dinner, you might be too sleepy for sex!)
- You can plan for sex emotionally
(are you emotionally prepared to plan sex?)
But planning for sex with a "grin and bear it" mindset isn't good. It would be awesome if you planned sex with a heart filled with joy and excitement. So how do you plan sex with THAT kind of mindset?
Well, here's a story.
My husband surprised me with something special on our anniversary: a sunset cruise.
He made sure that the house was clean, the kids had a babysitter, he had flowers everywhere. Well he got the idea from SOMEONE ELSE. Was I mad that he got the idea from someone else? Of course not.
That's the same with you planning sex. Don't feel like you're not being truthful or being a phony when you plan sex. The important thing is the experience you'll both be having, not HOW you got there.
How open should you be to your husband when it comes to planning sex? It depends on where you are in your marriage, emotionally speaking.
He craves you more when you feel good about having sex. But making love is also about you; your own joy and fulfillment.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Delight Your Marriage podcast, the show where you hear from amazing and |
| 0:07.6 | inspiring wives sharing their struggles, triumphs, and advice for this journey called marriage. |
| 0:13.9 | Here's your host, Bella Rose. |
| 0:19.8 | All righty, welcome, welcome. This is Bella Rose. Thank you, thank you for joining. So I wanted to talk about planning sex. Sexily. Because I work with men so often their refrain is, you know, Bella, it's like we have sex the exact same way, |
| 0:44.0 | the exact same time, and we even plan it. It is literally in our schedules. And I want to say, |
| 0:53.2 | honestly, scheduling sex is a heck of a lot better than it not |
| 0:57.0 | happening. And that's often what I tell the husband. So, you know, point one, be grateful. But point |
| 1:04.8 | two, I want to encourage you, dear wife, that yes, planning may be your strength, that may be the way you make sure your |
| 1:13.9 | life happens. And I so appreciate that and I encourage that. I think it's wonderful to do that |
| 1:20.7 | because clearly you're prioritizing your sex life if you're making sure there's a plan around it. |
| 1:31.1 | There's that quote, those who fail to plan, plan to fail, right? Or another one is from Larry Winget. She's a funny guy. But he says |
| 1:42.3 | nobody planned to be fat, lazy, and dumb. |
| 1:47.0 | But that's just what happened because they didn't plan, something like that. |
| 1:50.0 | So the point is that, yes, planning is important. |
| 1:54.0 | Don't let your sex life escape your plan. |
| 1:59.0 | You know, because a lot of times we'll just think that it's not that big of a deal, |
| 2:03.7 | so we won't plan for it, and then it just won't happen because life will get in the way. |
| 2:10.2 | With that in mind, I encourage you not to include your husband in the planning of the lovemaking. |
| 2:20.8 | So yes, my dear wife, if sex is not like an immediate thing that's on your mind all the time |
| 2:28.7 | and it's going to be easy for you to just put the pieces in place, If that's the way you thrive through a plan, |
| 2:35.7 | definitely plan when you all are going to be making love. Don't tell your husband about it. |
| 2:43.5 | Just don't. He wants a wife who's spontaneously thinking about sex. Now, what does that mean when I say, |
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