220. Dating Requires Your Effort (Contrary to Popular Belief)

Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau

Beatrice

Education, Self-improvement

4.8 • 3.4K Ratings

🗓️ 28 September 2023

⏱️ 39 minutes

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Summary

If you're walking around telling yourself "I DESERVE a relationship…"

Sit down for a second. Let's talk.

I say this because I love you: you do not "deserve" a relationship.

You don't deserve anything from another individual just because you want it.

Imagine if you walked into a job interview. You did no prep. You did no research. You wore your sweats. And when they start asking you questions, you just go, "What do you mean? Why are you asking me this? I deserve this job. Just give it to me."

They would look at you like you were FUCKING DELUSIONAL…because you'd have to be in order to act that way.

We all know we can't act like that in most areas of our lives. But when it comes to dating…all that goes flying out the window, and suddenly we're deep in our entitled princess energy, believing we deserve something we didn't put in the work for.

If dating feels like it's too hard, it's probably because you're approaching it with a heavy vibe of entitlement and need. But I promise you this: if you just shift this perspective, your dating life will be completely transformed.

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Self-Love Fix Podcast. I'm your host, the Eagle Whisperer, aka Beatrice. Founder
0:13.4	of the Self-Tress Alchemy Program formerly known as Self-Love Overcoat Penancy, T-Addict,
0:19.6	and a Self-Tress Embodiment Coach teacher and mentor for deep, luxed bitches who aren't
0:24.7	afraid of the dark. I'm on a mission to redefine Self-Love, to redefine
0:29.4	everything that you think you have to fix about yourself. You're people pleasing,
0:33.8	codependency, your past relationship, and so much more so that you can
0:38.5	alchemize these aspects of yourself into deep, reality-bending levels of self-trust
0:44.0	and next-level self-acceptance. In this podcast, we don't believe you need fixing.
0:49.2	Here, the only thing we repair is the way you currently view Self-Love,
0:54.6	manifestation, alignment, and dating and relationships. Welcome to the dark side,
0:59.4	where we play in the realm of astrology, ego work, shadow work, virtuality,
1:04.2	mask and fem work, and so much more. Oh, and lots of laughs. Welcome to Self-Love, redefine.
1:11.3	Welcome to the Self-Love Fix.
1:15.4	Hello, and welcome back to the Self-Love Fix Podcast. My name is Beatrice,
1:20.2	and I'm your host, and I'm so excited for this week's episode. Well, I'm excited for every
1:25.6	episode, to be honest, but last week, we talked about victimhood and dating, and this week,
1:31.9	we are going to talk about some practical, tangible things you can do to shift the way you see
1:39.3	dating, because here's the deal. I think that I genuinely honestly think that the reason why
1:44.0	people struggle with dating so much is because of the perspective they have around dating,
1:48.5	and there's a way that a lot of people look at dating that is actually contributing to this,
1:55.2	like, draining energy feeling around it. This, I don't want to make the profile on the dating
2:00.5	app, or I'm getting, I feel discouraged, or I'm hopeless, or whatever. If you shift your
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