Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment. In today's episode, I'm sharing

three hard truths about changing your life. And it's something that I wanted to share,

it being on the cusp of a new year. Now, I know that a lot of people have kind of mixed

feelings around the whole new year, new me energy and the tradition of setting

resolutions and all of those things. And certainly I think that if your New Year's resolutions

are just things that you pluck out of thin air or the same thing that you've said for the last

10 years and there's no real plan or structure or follow

through behind it, then certainly I think that can actually do more harm than good because

whether it's news resolutions or anything else, I think when we make commitments that we don't

follow through on that is really an effective way to erode self-trust and self-respect.

But for me, New Year always carries

a really potent energy, and it's a time that I personally love to sit down and reflect on the

year that's been and set clear intentions for myself for the coming year. And I have all of

these in the one little book for the past few years. And it's amazing to

read back on my reflections and my intentions and to see how those things unfolded,

often in unexpected ways, but it's really powerful and very deeply satisfying to me to see

how those things came to fruition or maybe took unexpected turns,

but nonetheless, it's always a very fruitful and meaningful exercise for me. And while I think it can

feel kind of arbitrary, you know, that the clock ticks over and suddenly you're meant to

shed all your skin and step it to a new version of yourself. And to the extent that all

of that kind of messaging and content is coming from a not enough place or a shamy place where

you feel like you should be further along or you suddenly have to become someone different

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